I will try to be as succinct as I can. I met a girl last week. In a previous post I had mentioned about my flaccid ejaculation problem and how I made friends with a guy who gave me seriously good advice on confidently nd approaching girls. Sadly I've been unable to quit my PMO/flaccid ejaculation problem and have simultaneously been trying to get girls using my friend's advice. So the confidence thing worked last week and I met a girl on the public transit and started talking to her. Long story short within a week she's my girlfriend and we both genuinely like each other. The only problem is that she wants sex soon. I'm now seriously going to cut out all the bad habits in my life and start a positive lifestyle. No more PMO, smoking, weird sleeping patterns. I will start exercising, eating better, sleeping on time and not touching my dick. I just want to give this new lifestyle a try and abstain completely for at least 30 days before I do anything sexual at all. I'm afraid she won't be patient and I'll yet again lose out on a real sexual outlet because of the dark habits of my ugly past. Should I just come clean with her and tell her about my sexual weakness and just hope for the best? I'm 90% sure she's gonna run away after hearing about my issues and I won't be mad at her for that. It's not her problem and she's doesn't owe me waiting for me. However I'm thinking that even if I go a week clean and then we start getting sexual my dick would still be used to the old habits and treat any sexual arousal with the same mechanism of ejaculating flaccid. Last week I lost my virginity to a hooker too and the sex sucked because I lost my boner and my dick wanted to cum flaccid. I've read somewhere it takes twice as long to recover but I don't have fucking ten years to wait!! I'm afraid I'm going to lose out on this girl but I want to make a new start now and even if this girl leaves me I'll take it as collateral damage for my last habits and a step towards a new life. I'm willing to do all the right things but I want to regain my ability to: - Gain a solid boner. - Maintain a solid erection. - Ejaculation with a hard dick and enjoying it. I think the only way if accomplishing these three goals are to quit porn and masturbating completely. No sexual stimulation of any kind whatsoever. Need a complete reset of my sexual life. I think I need some days of no sexual activity for at least a month before getting used to a normal sex life with a woman. In an ideal world I should have done the things I'm going to do now months years ago and I wouldn't be in this situation and instead be ready for a healthy relationship. But I'm a weak asshole who kept relapsing and reverting to my bad habits. I just think jumping into the ocean of sex right after quitting PMO is extremely hard. So should I go ahead and tell this woman that I'm not sexually available for the next few weeks and hope she understands and waits and thereby risk losing the girl or should I instead hide everything and hope that somehow my body forgets my bad habits and gets used to a normal sex life instead?