I have a question why we spend a lot of our time trying to have meaningless sex.

The chasement of Sex is embedded in our nature as human beings. We resolved conflicts and settled disputs through Sex. As another User already has written, it also can be a form of validation for you at this particular moment. Nevertheless men reach a peak of testosterone around their 20s and feel like the want to bang, everything that isn´t locked and safe. We overestimate sex for being the supreme thing, because the society conveys this message on a daily basis.

 

Bro, sex isn't meaningless. Don't you enjoy it? People have a great motivation to continue the race - to get high from it. There aren't many things in the world that we enjoy so much-and one of them is sex

 

Didnt read all of the follow up posts yet but in general it is a bad idea to have meaningless sex. At least have some connection with the person you choose to have sex with. It can be a friend, girlfriend. It is never meaningless if you can keep it cool afterwards.

I recently turned down a girl offering to have sex with me. I didn't feel like it was a good idea because she had just been trough a breakup. We are still friends though and I think she actually respects me more now.

 

work on your self confidence. It wont just magically appear. Be proactive about it. You are still young. Do Nofap. It really helps. Also read books and ask for advice form people with more experience.

 

Sex and Fornication are 2 different things, what people want is fulfill their own ego, that's the type of society we live in

 

Good answer. It isnt all black and white. Sometimes you have to lower your standards just to build self confidence. As you grow older it may hold you back.

 

Maybe. but, lower your standards? Not exactly, its more like finding out what your standards actually are.

Guys either have sex, sex, sex, until one girl sticks around or they actually know what they want and who they are looking for. The latter is more rare, but it describes a man who has a plan for his life.

 

Good point. I am usually going for the pretty ones but they have their shields up so they are often hard to get. If they have a nice personality as well then they are quality girls. I dont like a pretty face without some depth to the persona. I think some guys have porn standards. My standards are pretty high by default.

After some time on Nofap you start getting attracted to more average looking girls. You see them as pretty. Your brain may get confused and think that you should not abandon your high porn standards but I think we are limiting ourselves. If we need experience then maybe consider having a good time with every girl you feel somewhat attracted to.

Maybe they are not meeting your standards for long term relationship material or whatever but you never know. Average looking girls can be good seducers. The prettiest ones often dont have to put in the work so they often do little or nothing in bed and in general. They rely only on their looks.

Just to take it a little further. My dream girl would be one of the pretty ones but in order to be a 10 in my books she needs to have an excellent personality as well. I appreciate kind, feminine women who care about themselves. If I can have deep talks then that can often out weight the rest.

I am dating a schizophrenic girl atm. First reason was that she was pretty. She is somewhat damaged and often sick but I fell for her smile, openness and the fact that we just never run out of stuff to talk about. Maybe not the girl of my dreams but love is a strange thing. This girl was a rare gem. Maybe we never end up in a relationship because she isnt easy at all times. Often very depressed or anxious. But at the very least she will be a good friend for a pretty long time. And she doesn't even know how pretty she is. Probably because she has been ill for so long.