I have ED I assume from overmasturbation

I'd recommend you go hard mode. Because what's really tough while rebooting, is when you have an orgasm and then have a strong chaser effect in the following days. If you're still in the process of trying to reboot from such a porn addiction, there's a very big chance that the chaser effect will have you watching porn again before you even know it!

 

That sounds very much like PIED. If you quit PMO it is very very likely you'll penis will start working quite as it should for a 23-year-old (get an erection easily and stay hard for long enough). It might take a month or three or even more.

I'm an old guy and had plenty of sex before I started having problems with PMO as we had no high speed Internet in my youth. Having just one Playboy or Hustler for the whole year isn't exactly same as being able to fast forward several movies every day. I guess it took me about a month to get rid of my ED and DE, perhaps even less (I didn't keep a proper journal), younger guys who haven't had any proper sex before starting PMO may need more time. But there seems to be no reason to believe that you would have some other problem.

Just stay strong, keep away from your triggers and take one day at a time.

 

P is definitely the major contributing factor to the problem. Most people won't MO without some external stimulus multiple times per day.

Some people say that it is better to go hard mode (no O from your partner(s)). Seeing how my sex life benefited from stopping P and M was strong enough incentive for me to keep going with nofap. The chaser effect as described by Happiness can be a strong reason why to start with hard mode but I really didn't feel that was the best way for me.

If you want to do hard mode you probably will need to explain to your girl friend why you won't have sex with her. You'll need to figure out if that is something you'll want to do. What I've understood many women don't mind when they understand why you are doing it it but some might. You know her much better than I do

 

I agree with Happiness. Hard mode is much more effective and will not slow down your reboot, whereas having orgasms with your partner likely will.

 

Have slow gentle sex, without orgasm.

 

Pied for sure.


The only draw back to orgasms is the chaser effect. Asides from that I see no other reason why as it is completely natural and part of rewiring your brain to th real thing. I wouldnt force it to happen though, when your body and mind is ready it will happen. Don't get into sex thinking u can't do certain things rather go by the feel and focus of your partner. I don't agree with the whole dont orgasm method Unless it's by your hand which I would tend to agree with Then.

Sex is natural and oing is part of the experience

 

This video is very informative and should give you a few answers to your initial questions James24.
Warning: There are triggering images in the first few minutes in this video!

Just letting you know as well, if you've been masturbating to porn 4 times a day, for... a while... I'm guessing a few years, you will have a very hard time trying to quit. Brace yourself.

 

That is truly bizarre! I have watched this video many, many times and I didn't know there were even any images in it (apart from the interviewer and interviewee)!

I thought you must have made a mistake NoBrainer - what a silly billy I am!

 

Definitely PIED. You have a couple of things going on here. Your body is used to a death grip so this is why a vagina or a mouth is not stimulating enough. Hard mode will get that sensitivity back but so will no longer masturbating at all while continuing to have sex (but it may take longer) Also refrain from handjobs. I suggest orgasming with a partner if you want to but refrain from any porn fantasy to achieve an erection and to get yourself to O. This is extremely important because fantasy will keep the porn pathways strong. If you can't stop fantasy during sex hard mode helps here too. It will get your mind to go back to normal sexuality where fantasy is not needed to become erect. The anticipation of sex will. Focus on your partner, please her and really be into it, not somewhere else in your mind. Sex is a sensual experience so sight, taste, touch, smell and your body is used to sex being visual only and constant manual stimulation to O. Real sex isn't like that as you know. This is rewiring to the real thing.

So I think going hard mode is a choice depending on how you are dealing with sex right now. You will still have ED but it will get better with time and an understanding partner. One nighters are probably not the best idea for PIED in my opinion.

Your body right now is manufacturing sexual urges to get dopamine so you likely feel super horny all the time and out of control. Learning to control those urges are very important as your body heals itself and you regain your natural sexual drive. You maybe even experience a flatline where you don't feel horny at all for weeks and this is hour body getting back to normal.

Good luck

 

Man, I'm 19 and I'm going through the same thing... I went to a doctor an he just kind of laughed it off and gave me some pills for anxiety. But I know it's not performance anxiety. It's PIED. I'm taking this really seriously, I want to regain my sex drive and get rid of the ED, so I'm doing hard mode. Looking forward to hearing how you beat this man. And btw, you've tried 50 times? Kudos to you I've tried 3 lol

 

Recovery is different for everyone.

I watched porn for 10 years straight, 1-2 wanks a day. Around half an hr of porn a day and was able to penetrate and orgasm for the first time ever in 42 days.

Oh BTW if u can get aroused and have semi decent boners naturally then cialis can help with recoveY. If yah can't get it up from pied it won't so anything

 

Ok your situation sounds really similar to mine. I also have a lady friend and if you have already started having sex with her then it will be weird to stop...at least I haven't had the guts to do that. If you haven't started then you should take as long as you can on third base it will help all aspects of your relationship. You should be able to reboot without going to hard mode, oral sex or sex should be fine...just do your best!