I have issues!

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  1. pranav02

    pranav02 Fapstronaut

    Alright so first off, I wanna start off by saying that I did relapse 3 days ago but I have been having these issues for a very long time. So 16M here and here's my story:

    I believe I am too philosophical so of late, I've been reading a lot of social psychology books including Models by Mark Manson, No More Mr. Nice Guy. I often feel like I am a person who is lower on the social skills section. NoFap has opened my eyes towards my issues but facing them hasn't always been easy. I've wanted to change myself and one day, I was somehow introduced to red pill. Although like many teens I was lured into it and I began reading it, its misogyny turned me away. However, one thing I feel as though is I am not alpha enough. I know many of you would say being alpha isn't even a thing, I know that I have never been able to achieve my full potential. I was a champion in chess when I was 4, I talked to only girls and I was the happiest I've ever been. Although the majority of my situations have stayed the same, I am not even close to what I was back then on the contrary.

    I wanna be the best at things I do, earn respect from others, be socially-confident and also realize my talents and potentials rather than sit down and procrastinate or be depressed, I wanna be more alpha (although I know many of you disagree on the concepts of alphas and betas). This has stressed me a lot and its like no matter how hard I try and I change my ways, nothing's different. I have healthy habits I practice regularly like meditation, exercising and other things but somedays, I just can't change my lazy and unmotivated attitude and I end up wasting the day.

    How do I change my outlook and be more positive in general? How do I be the man I've been or rather a much-better person than that without losing myself? I'm sorry if this is a rather long rant, I've just a bit down for the last 2 months. Please help me if you can or do share your opinions if you face similar issues.
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  2. Maybe instead of being positive you could first take a look at what's going on in your life. You could get a pen and paper and think about your friends, teachers, family relationships etc. How could you make things better? Don't think too hard, just write down thoughts fairly quickly. Do some people deserve more of your attention, do others deserve less, or none at all?

    What messages do you get from the world? Which ones do you agree with, which do you think are bullshit?

    That's what I've got right now. I'll do it myself as well, practise what I preach! Good luck
  3. Moon Shot

    Moon Shot Fapstronaut


    That's some solid advice, hermit ninja. Pranav, the fact you are here on NoFap asking such questions stands to reason as to your ability to change your outlook. It doesn't mean you lose yourself, your identity. It just whips out a paradigm shift. The world is a very different place in the eyes of a king and a beggar. But both are innately human, perhaps even insecure. I would follow up on hermit ninja's teachings here, 'cause I have no clue how to answer your question. I'm still finding the answer for myself, and it's like a jungle out there, mate. Tell you what, I'll let you know if I ever rub shoulders with Enlightenment? ;) being a better person has many shades of meaning. I'm just adding some bullshit to Mr Ninja's advice, though mine is probably just propaganda. In addition to agreeing or disagreeing with the world's messages, make your own. Find your purpose, your motivation and stick to it. Even when everything is bleak. Maintaining a positive attitude is difficult, and at times impossible, ergo it's overrated. No need for it when you're looking beyond day to day circumstances. But each piece forms the whole picture. Don't neglect anything. We live once, and so live it fully. Mates, we are fighting the good fight! - Words of a newb. Day 1!!!
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  4. pranav02

    pranav02 Fapstronaut

    Thanks guys for taking the time to respond to my query. I appreciate it, guess I need a self-reflection session again :)
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