i have this big issue! And I don't want to masturbate to fix it

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Inchristidefeatthis, Jun 16, 2020.

  1. Inchristidefeatthis

    Inchristidefeatthis Fapstronaut

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    Basically I remember I started masturbating with lube when I was 16 but for the pas few years almost 7, i have been masturbating dry.
    Yesterday I relapsed after 15 days Nofap and I tried to use Lube after using dry in the first round and I realized it didn't feel grippy or pleasurable like my dry hand. I then got to know normal sex and the vagina is even more slippery than lube.

    This makes me scared!!!

    I want to go on a new determined streak but seeing as I don't feel as aroused with lube(closer to what a vagina feels like)as I am with my dry grippy hand, It makes me want to masturbate with lube to correct it. But I don't want to PMO anymore

    Can this be fixed with Nofap over a long reboot period such that when I have real sex it feels normal. I'm a virgin btw.

    Thank you
     
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  2. False promise

    False promise Fapstronaut

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    A vagina does not feel like masturbating with lube. Stop making excuses to relapse.
     
  3. Davidphd1866

    Davidphd1866 Fapstronaut

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    You are correct. Masturbating with lube will NOT correct your "death grip" syndrome. Masturbating in general will not help you. Stay strong. Keep the longest streaks you can.
     
  4. Inchristidefeatthis

    Inchristidefeatthis Fapstronaut

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    Okay, so i can just go on my streak and hope I am cured of dry masturbation when I finally have sex ?
     
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  5. False promise

    False promise Fapstronaut

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    I can assure you that if you go on an admirable streak, we’re talking months, you will have no problem being aroused during a real sexual encounter. Stop focusing on this pointless shit anyways man. There’s more to life than sex. Do nofap for enhancement of your own life. Forget about sex and women for once in your life.
     
  6. RareFlares

    RareFlares Fapstronaut

    Hey mate. Im a virgin too. My understanding from reading the stories of others here on nofap is that masturbating and watching porn negatively affect performance during sex.

    For example, a common problem is PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction). Porn rewires the brain to need high stimulation and novelty (ie. seeing lots of different women) in order to be sexually aroused. When real sex doesn't give that to a guy, then they struggle to be aroused.

    Another issue is from masturbation. The speeds and grip that you can achieve when masturbating cannot be replicated in real sex. That is why a guy can last like a minute at full speed masturbating but can last a lot longer in real sex as the speed is slower and it is not as tight. They may even have to pull out and masturbate in order to orgasm as they cant get to that point naturally in normal sex.

    So thats the bad news of how masturbation and porn can affect real sex.

    But the good news is that by going through the nofap journey, you are retraining your brain and so normal sex is going to be so much more enjoyable and stimulating, the way it is supposed to be. You wont be desensitized and so you can enjoy orgasm with your partner and not have to stress.

    I would encourage you to not stress too much about how it will be when you have sex. Because you can know that doing nofap is a great way to prepare for it. So focus on your nofap journey and you will be training yourself to become a better lover to your future partner :)
     
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  7. Davidphd1866

    Davidphd1866 Fapstronaut

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    I second that, if you go through a reasonably effective reboot, you will enjoy the vagina quite well. Just as He will take care of the sparrow, you need not worry.
     
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