I Have to End this Cylce

I think that is the most stupid 'reason' I have ever heard! That is not a 'reason', it is a pretext. You are better than this!

That is more like it boy! Yes, you can beat this addiction. The key word is immediately! Delay increases the chance of compromise and a shitty choice. You have proven what you can do, so get serious and act immediately when urges come.

 

Thanks for the feedback and you are very welcome. It is easy to say and harder to do (especially on certain occasions). But at least you know the answer, right? Just keep doing it, even for minor stuff - act immediately - and it will become second nature, like a knee-jerk (lol) reaction. I can't believe I said that! Haha!

 

Make it difficult to relapse. Install filters on your devices, so when this pretexts or reasons start in your mind you can't PMO even if you decide to. Norton Family, K9, for your computer. Override DNS and Shield my teen in case you have an android mobile phone. And it's only a relapse don't be too hard on yourself, learn from it and try to improve the barriers to make more difficult to relapse again, a few more minutes can be the difference when we enter in autopilot mode. . In my case filters and meditation are the main tools in my reboot. You need to identify the main triggers. In my case, they are sleeping less than 7 hs or when i feel really really tired, days without meditation, videogames and tvseries binge.
A few days ago relapsed and lost a 18 days streak, i hadn't meditated those days, the last day i didn't sleep cause i went to Buenos Aires to David Gilmour's concert, and my mobile phone wasn't protected cause i felt i didn't need it after i installed a new rom. As you can see big mistake. At first i felt really bad cause it was the 2nd time i reached 18 days. In my journey i learnt, after a year and a half, that selfhatred and guilt only leads us to the wrong side. So i resumed my meditation, installed again the filters on my mobile and cut off a series of relapses that lasted 3 days when it could last a few weeks. It's easier when you find the tools that suits your lifestyle. In advance i hope you can understand my English, and i wish you the best on your journey, never give up because this is a slow process in which you learn something every day even if you don't notice.

 

I support you with this. Filters can be a useful tool for some to get some momentum. But you cannot rely on them long-term. You cannot filter out life. And as we know too well, we live in a highly sexualised society. So, it is good if you can toughen up to any challenge that comes along.

 

I tell you how get rid of these excuses to relapse.

You need to learn yourself to distinguish thoughts in brain that are foolish and want to fool you into getting more dopamine. Once you will get to know this, it will help you a lot.

Oh, its just another try of my brain trying to fool me, whatever. See? It works for me so far and I hope it will for you as well.

Or try to look on yourself as a drug addict. Try to imagine a drug addict. That will try to make any excuse just to get his drug. Do you wanna be a loser like that! I don't!

 

In Lance Dodes' (M.D.) book Breaking Addiction: A 7-Step Handbook for Breaking Any Addiction, he mentions that it is not a good idea for an addict to tell a close friend or family member that you are NOT going to give in to your addiction that day. It sets you up for embarrassment if you end up relapsing and then your friend or family member loses trust in you.
Instead, he suggests saying something like 'I'm working on it' or 'I'm slowly recovering'. Or (this may be best), make no comment at all.
Good luck, man. You've got the right ideas. You can do it.