I just cant control my urges anymore

This is probably not the right thread for this discussion, but I don't want to leave you without a reply either. I've been a relapse-r all of my life until recently. Even now it's not like I have that much room to brag since I'm only at 16 days. I don't know your subjective experience of your urges although I know they can seem overpowering.

Right now it also sounds like you're catching a bug, which is just making you feel even crappier.

Write down your list of reasons why you want to do this. For me, I don't want my life and decisions determined by my endocrine system. It sounds like you're at a prime breeding age for humans, so it's not going to be easy. If you're starting college soon you will want to have the clearest mind to pursue knowledge, and not masturbating will help with that. You made it to 11 days which is a lot better than what most males your age could ever muster.

Keep trying. Once you're studying full-time, and you're not masturbating, you will see the benefits much more tangibly and you will be less tempted to relapse.

Relapse is not a time for guilt. I don't think that's productive. Just reassess and go from there.

 

Sorry, I misread at first. My brain is a little foggy as well today.

What could you do during those 2 days that would help occupy more of your time? I imagine you have to study.

 

First of just breathe and relax. What has happened has happened. You are not the first person to relapse and you will not be the last person to relapse. But this will help you become stronger. I have come to terms with i am not in full control of my body. I tell me body that i am no longer going to fap to porn yet my body plays all these tricks on me. (Insert meme BODY Y U DO THIS)

To me and how i feel is that my body and my mind are two separate entities/beings/whatever that are constantly in a battle. This time your body won the round. But now you are more experienced in withdrawal and what your body will try and do. Use this as a learning experience so when you are ready to start again you will be prepared.

But i stress this please do not beat yourself up about it. but instead come back stronger and smarter

 

Take all the time you need to clear your head. It is understandable that you will beat yourself up about in essence you will feel like you wasted your time trying it but really don't be disheartened by the relapse.

But something i want to leave you with is don't take too long in making your decision because eventually you will hit the point where you come back to NoFap and you will wish that you had done this earlier. This i almost guarantee you. Im 31 and i wish i done this at 21. (actually wish i never started at all but you get the picture)

 

I have already read a lot of postings in this forum. To me it's not important how often somebody has relapsed but what really matters is how much a person is crying for help. When there is a serious longing to get rid of addiction everything is possible.

Exactly. 11 days is great!

Very good comment. We always have the chance not to make the same mistake again and again.

It's possible to replace a bad habit by a good one. I like to encourage other fapstronauts, especially the new ones. This puts my mind in the right direction and helps me a lot to control the urges.

It's funny which words each one of us likes to use. I like to say that in each human being there is a mind and there is a heart. The mind is roaring with loud voice, the heart is whispering. Heart wants us to be truly happy, never wants us to be addicted to anything. Mind is very strong and very, very tricky. First mind tells us "Fapping now will be so wonderful" and immediately you followed it, mind says "You idiot, how could you be so stupid?."

I think this body has no longings and wishes, it just wants to be treated well. In my terminology there might be a battle between mind and heart, but I don't want to be focused on a battle. I just want to focus on what I really want: true happiness, inner fulfillment, peace inside. Actually I enjoy my sexual abstinence very much.

 

That’s the choice each one of us has: the consider the glass as half full or half empty. Choose joy and make your re-start. You have much more strength than you can imagine.

 

Do these stuff and you can’t relapse!

Don’t touch, don’t peek, don’t edge, don’t fantasize, learn to be able to change your mind as when you’re thinking about pmo or pmo related stuff, you can change your mind and think of something else

Lastly, don’t fight it tooo hard, it’ll just keep reminding you of what you’re doing and you’ll eventually run out of power to keep fighting then you’ll be more willing to relapse easier. So combine all this with meditation, eat healthy and exercise and do some art stuff! You got this! Peace love and positivity to you brother!

 

Then quit playing video games and quit watching porn, and start pursuing a great dream of yours.

 

The main problem with you is will power. you need to improve it. Cold showers and meditation helps in improving will power, you can try that. given that you are so prone to relapsing i dont think you can do meditation, you need to focus a lot but certainly you can stand under cold shower.