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I just want to have a sex life again.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Lookingforanswers12216, Jul 15, 2017.

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  1. Jul 15, 2017 #1
    Lookingforanswers12216

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    As stated in my previous posts, I stopped being able to have an orgasm this past December.
    I haven't had sex in almost 4 years, and I'm scared to do it again.

    I don't feel any sort of sexual sensation down there, and with no orgasm, the whole idea of it just feels stressful. I've found that I can't go on as long as I used to either, which is depressing too.

    Apparently I fried my dopamine receptors, which is something I didn't even know I could do. I'm doing this in the hopes that one day I can feel that sexual sensation again, but down there and in my mind. But sometimes it feels completely hopeless. I just had to stop myself from masturbating, but it's so frustrating because I wish I could just go back in time and fix it before any of it started.

    It's harder because I often feel like I can't relate to anyone now.

    Just a quick rant. I'm actively trying to stop myself at this moment, and this is getting my mind off of things, and making me focus on something else.
     
    Lookingforanswers12216, Jul 15, 2017
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  2. Jul 16, 2017 #2
    Smartboyj

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    Hey man … that is a very open and honest post!! You should change your perspective on this and use it a reason to fight and beat this addiction.

    When I say perspective I mean that we all need a strong reason to beat P , too many people on here just want to get rid of P but don’t have a truly person reason..

    But I know where you are coming from , I would say I also have PIED from years of using P daily…. And it has robbed me of so many experiences , it made me a BATA male afraid to take changes offered to me in work but also to avoid relationships… as I would have also found it hard to have any sexual sensation when with a women both mentally and physically.

    Think about it , if we have spent years watch P were women do anything with men and most times multiple men how can vanilla sex do it for you…

    But that’s the thing it’s not vanilla P , be it a one night stand or a relationship where there is a strong mental connection, P has fried or numbed our brains to this.

    And then physically from M for years the sensitive in the penis is gone…

    Don’t give up and keep fighting…

    I did get to DAY 70 but I relapsed and I am starting again but I can tell you it gets better… Hang in there and keep fighting , you clearly know what you are fighting for..

    Best of luck man
     
    Smartboyj, Jul 16, 2017
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  3. Jul 16, 2017 #3
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    Keep fighting, we'll beat this thing. Once our brains return to a more normal state we'll be able to have normal sex lives again. Our brains have to rewire away from porn and back to real women.
     
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  4. Jul 16, 2017 #4
    phwrancesco

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    i can feel you, i quitted sex for 4 years also and didn't want to do that again in my life, just think about it would kill me. On day 80 i had a beautiful night of sex with a sweet girls, totally unexpected. Keep fighting :)
     
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  5. Jul 16, 2017 #5
    Lu Bu

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    Get a new grip and the rest will follow.

    Here's a song my Father used to play in a walkman he ducktaped to my head in my sleep:

     
    Lu Bu, Jul 16, 2017
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  6. Jul 16, 2017 #6
    green lion eating the sun

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    I want to have a sex life again too. but first i need to feel ready i can have sex in the way i want to, without my sexual urges controlling me. I gotta sure of this before i am back in the game
     
    green lion eating the sun, Jul 16, 2017
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