I know my trigger, how can I attack it?

[2080Future]

As the title says, I think I've found the thing that makes me have the most urges/relapses, but I don't know the best way to attack it amd overcome it.

The thing is, I relapse the most/get the most urges when I need to put effort into something. When I think "I have to do this" or "This afternoon I need to get a lot of things done" my brain starts bombarding me with sexual thoughts, urges and the thought of doing PMO and how it would be more enjoyable than the effort/work I have to do.

How can I attack this? I can't just avoid the things I have to do, and I can't manage my tasks to need these huge amounts of effort in a short period because they are what cause the urges.

Side note: Yeah, the effort causes urges, but not relapses. Relapses are on me for falling to the urges and not sticking to my emergency plan, which is something that needs more work but I am working on it.

Lately I've been trying to manage myself better, I started using a software called Notion to organize my TODOs and stuff, and I'm doing better than before, so a good help would be improving so that these huge effort bursts are not needed, which would mainly solve the problem.
But there will always be some moments where you have to crunch something, in these events, what should I do?

Thanks in advance for any help you can give.

 

[black_coyote]

I understand what you are trying to convey....it is like you know you have to get out of the comfort zone but you are cozied in by the familiarity of staying hooked, not only to porn, but other stuffs like You Tube stuffs. One method I used is that I'd tell myself that I'd work on the tasks for just 10 minutes and then stop. When I get absorbed in tasks, then time flies, no problem. when there is lure of urges, I'll tell myself that I'd push a little more further, maybe 10 more minutes.

This works for me...

Regarding tackling urges, I'd say that one of the most effective response when you are bombarded with crap is to imagine yourself consuming it all....and ask yourself "Now, what?" "Are you going to be happy?" " Is indulgence going to solve your suffering?" "Is it going to help you anyway?"...Finding answer to those questions helps me realign to the path.

Stay strong friend!

 

[2080Future]

I understand what you are trying to convey....it is like you know you have to get out of the comfort zone but you are cozied in by the familiarity of staying hooked, not only to porn, but other stuffs like You Tube stuffs. One method I used is that I'd tell myself that I'd work on the tasks for just 10 minutes and then stop. When I get absorbed in tasks, then time flies, no problem. when there is lure of urges, I'll tell myself that I'd push a little more further, maybe 10 more minutes.

This works for me...

Regarding tackling urges, I'd say that one of the most effective response when you are bombarded with crap is to imagine yourself consuming it all....and ask yourself "Now, what?" "Are you going to be happy?" " Is indulgence going to solve your suffering?" "Is it going to help you anyway?"...Finding answer to those questions helps me realign to the path.

Stay strong friend!

Thanks, I will try it!