I lost again. Relapsed after 1 month

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Jay-t, Aug 1, 2020.

  1. Jay-t

    Jay-t Fapstronaut

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    Today i hit a month and relapsed. I just got to the point where I didn’t feel like I was seeing any changes… But I definitely didn’t give myself enough time. How can I go a whole month and then not at least go another month and then another month after that to make it to 3. Now I’m starting to see that after a month a whole lot of good energy kicks in and I totally screwed it up. I talked myself into relapsing since I have a whole month until school starts and then even when school starts I will be taking classes from home because of the quarantine until January so I didn’t really see a point in retaining since I won’t really be around other people to see the benefits. I feel so bad I went a whole month I feel like after a month that’s when a lot of good things start happening and I screwed that up almost like i couldnt see flower blooming because the roots were growing underground. Damnit
     
  2. BigBadWolf_27

    BigBadWolf_27 Fapstronaut

    You know that you screwed up, so dust yourself off, get up and try again. I know it may seems pointless in lockdown, but there is plenty more benefits of doing NoFap than just repairing social issues. Dedicate yourself, go all in. Think about it, you may go back to social routine after a few months, by starting today, when you will get back to that, everyone will see the best possible version of you. You need to make a sacrifices along the road, that's normal. Don't overthink that failure, every day is a new chance to rise again, you can abstain as long as you can, just say it to yourself.
     
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  3. Jay-t

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    i wish i could remember how bad relapses feel while on a streak..so that i dont go there . I wish i could tell myself i would rather be at the top on a streak than at the bottom after the relapse. Why was i willing to throw away a month so fast.
     
  4. Jay-t

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    i wish i could remember how bad relapses feel while on a streak..so that i dont go there . I wish i could tell myself i would rather be at the top on a streak than at the bottom after the relapse. Why was i willing to throw away a month so fast.
     
  5. TrueSaiyan

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    I relapsed as well last night. I had one of the worst anxieties and nobody really to talk to and it honestly sucks.

    I did what I could do best though I made some relaxing tea and took some Melatonin. My thoughts usually fly like I'm thinking about the end of life and it seems when I have that kind of anxiety. my biggest fear is that there's nothing after death and your just a nothingness void in eternity... but I'm very spiritual and believe in god I know hes been there helping me out and I believe still with all my situations..

    Don't feel so bad man you made it to 30 days and that's a huge mile stone! I haven't even come close to that number. You screwed up but you pushed your self further with in a bad habit.
     
  6. LoveIsAllWeNeed

    LoveIsAllWeNeed Fapstronaut

    If you see that a whole lot of good energy kicks in, how can you say you weren't seeing any changes? Seems like a mindtrick to me.
    Why is there no point in retaining just because you can't see the benefits as you're not around people? See and FEEL the benefits of good energy. Don't focus so much on others. This is about YOU!
     
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  7. SoaringEagle

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    Dude, don't be harsh on yourself. You have accomplished a month!
    You are now a step closer to going further to be completely free from P.
    Before a 10 month streak I had, I had several attempts each longer than the previous. Not everyone can make it cold turkey from first try. By abstaining from a month you gave your brain a good break and time to heal, and now you know your triggers more so that you can make this streak last longer.
     
  8. Jay-t

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    I feel bad about a month because I have already done a 10 week streak, at eight weeks streak, and a five week streak, I feel like every time I try to do nofap I have less and less patience
     
  9. Jay-t

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    Well I was more so reading about people that affirm the fact that after a month that’s when a lot of benefits kick in… I’m not saying I felt anything but after reading peoples channels they said after a month good things start happening and I didn’t even give myself a chance
     
  10. thikk

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    Tbh I don't think nofap should be done for 'the benefits', you do it to get out of an unhealthy addiction and to actually have a working penis/sexual life. Sure there'll be benefits associated with quiting, but quiting should be the main motivation. In this particular case it looks like you have experience quiting that is even better than most people here. Be strong and find your reason for wanting to quit so that you can look forward to that at day 90 and 180 and 360.
     
  11. thinking_differently

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    How can you say you lost!
    What happened to all the progress, all that work, all that change in your mindset, all that period of creating new memories of not jerking off, in those 30 days?

    Not much has changed between the you 7 days ago and now, except that you must now be more careful. Put in some extra work to fight the Chaser effect. Find what works for you.

    Stay aware, stay strong!
     

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