I made it to 90 no PMO!

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by litew8, Nov 27, 2018.

  1. litew8

    litew8 Fapstronaut

    40
    61
    18
    Today is my 90th day no PMO hard mode for the first time in my 45 year old adult life. I will keep it short and just wanted to give myself as virtual pat on the back and hopefully encourage others to push on through the temptation and urges on your path to a porn free life.

    The benefits for me have been massive but i will state there is no golden line to cross so far, but everyday gets a little easier and looking back things have changed a lot for the better. I have become a better calmer version of myself, more thoughtful, measured and less reactive, females now have friend zone value rather that objectifying and although i now appreciate the female form in a much stronger way due to my abstaining its from a point of view of wanting physical touch and not just visual stimulation, im saving myself for the right girl and am done with M for good. I love sex dont get me wrong, in the flesh is where its at and with real woman on an emotional level, my barriers are down and im stronger and i want it to stay that way.

    for those in the midst of it keep going, by no means is struggle over but 30 went to 90 and now 180 is my next target, it passes quickly and life gets a little easier everyday. If i meet a girl though i will break it no problem and without guilt, ive already achieved something i could never have dreamed of 4 months ago, so im ready for life back in the dating game.

    Good luck to all you fellow Nofap'ers, and may your god give you strength in your moments of weakness.

    Peace out x
     
    Last edited: Nov 27, 2018
  2. Freeman82

    Freeman82 Fapstronaut

    Great story mate and I'm delighted for you that you have found this freedom. Thanks for sharing.
     
  3. SomeRandomNatty

    SomeRandomNatty Fapstronaut

  4. That’s great litew8.
    Your where I want to be in a few months time.
    Totally inspiring.
    I still get a lot of urges, I presume that wares off the longer you go on?
    Plenty thoughts as well. I still fantasise a lot, however I try and make it about real people now and not porn babes.
    Any more brief tips on how you got through this?
     
  5. MIC_1

    MIC_1 Fapstronaut

    Great story m8. Hope you find the right woman!
     
  6. litew8

    litew8 Fapstronaut

    40
    61
    18
    Putney, the urges come just as strong for a month or so but the distance between each major urge increases, over time they weaken and are less frequent. The big thing that has kept my mind off it is if i catch myself being drawn to sexualized content i pull away. You just need to be observant of your thoughts, they call it 'mindfulness' and its a great way to stop your thought and emotions running out of control. After a while being in mindful mode comes default and thats where i am right now. I just hope that once i break my 'monk mode' i have the strength to continue on from here. As with all addictions its easy to relapse and every day is a challenge so just take it one day at a time.

    Thank you very much for your kinds words friends and i wish you all a speedy recovery and i hope you find what your looking for from this great community.
     
    Last edited: Nov 28, 2018
  7. Thank you for the advice litew8.
    This gives me confidence that what I’m doing is for the best.
    I have a friend who talks about mindfulness quite a bit. I will catch up with him soon and ask him more.
     
    litew8 likes this.
  8. cranks175

    cranks175 Fapstronaut

    nice congrats man! u will find her, nofap is the promise! keep jour journey going and a little advice, check out karezza or Marnia Robinson book Cupids Poisoned Arrow, it can give you a new insight on how to manage your sexuality when you are in a relationship. All the best!"
     
    litew8 likes this.
  9. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Amazing to read a post like this from 45 years old. I am nearly 40 years old and I fucked up my life with porn and masturbation as my brain is not working properly when it comes to making decisions. I always made dumb decisions and fucked up long term. I must change it I hope no PMO will make me sharper and smarter and so on. Of course, I do loads of other things to help like reading books, etc ...Well done to you !!
     
    Freeman82, litew8, SirErnest and 2 others like this.
  10. Asgardian36

    Asgardian36 Fapstronaut

    1,066
    1,071
    143

    Finally...some good post in the success stories!!! Thank you for sharing, man! Godspeed!!!
     
    litew8 likes this.
  11. litew8

    litew8 Fapstronaut

    40
    61
    18
    4D - Im of a similar mould to you by the sounds of it, ive suffered addictions all my life, drugs alcohol, women, gambling you name it, the one thing that i never managed to beat was fap'ing, i can honestly say out of all my bads habits stopping this has created a new level of calm in my life, im also not chomping at the bit to get a woman, i can take it or leave it and thats just how i imagined life is for all them cool guys, i now feel like that cool guy, very weird indeed.

    I try to tell my man friends about it and most just laugh like its some laddish behavior or fad without really understanding the benefits, the truth is i dont think the majority of them have the will power to do it and will just keep chasing their tales like crazy dogs.

    Cranks - I will check that book im always after some interesting read and that sounds right up my street, thanks for the tip bro.

    Pure - i will keep going and going, im having a few rough nights at the mo but its just the devil in me trying to come out, the beast is still there but ive come this far no point in turning back. by the new year i will past 120 so unless i get the girl i will be staying strong, the only way i will crack is if i get the girl, thats for real.
     
    cranks175 likes this.
  12. Spartan Shibz

    Spartan Shibz Fapstronaut

    159
    115
    43
    Awesome! Congratulations.
     
    litew8 likes this.
  13. uday2019

    uday2019 Fapstronaut

    15
    38
    13
    wow man u r doing great
     
  14. Bad_hombre

    Bad_hombre Fapstronaut

    92
    97
    18
    It's great to read such a distinguishable account of a rewarding accomplishment because all of us are well aware of how hard it is to do the 90 days challenge. I've been working on it since April, nevertheless, I haven't been able so far to go 90 days completely clean.

    After the bluesy days, It's rewarding to get the benefits of recovery feeling again is amazing. Getting pleasure from the skin to skin contact with the female body after years and years in the darkness is beyond description. The facial features of a woman enticed by love are beautiful in a particular way.
     
    Freeddom_Taker likes this.
  15. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

    1,120
    2,145
    143
  16. SirErnest

    SirErnest Fapstronaut

    1,245
    12,119
    143
    Yeah all my male friends either find nofap funny or are hostile to it. Women seem to be ok with it, but two have actively tried to tempt me to cave-in.
     
  17. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

    1,120
    2,145
    143
  18. uday2019

    uday2019 Fapstronaut

    15
    38
    13
    please guide to fight with such lustful thoughts
     
  19. Astro Balthus

    Astro Balthus Fapstronaut

    12
    8
    3
    thanks for sharing! im inspired and encouraged
     
  20. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Thanks, well done to you, you have then much more work than me. I was only addicted to porn and fapping (especially when I am lonely and have no successful plans and no human touch) so I need to only manage this one but it is very strong. But I know we can unlock great potential with it so it is worth doing it!
     

Share This Page