I masturbated last night, and I loved it.

Hey man

Thanks for sharing!

I totally agree with everything you've said in this post. Sometimes it just is an animalistic urge that you cannot resist, and there's nothing wrong with that. Seeing those all those beautiful women got me riled up like a 13 year old! It felt amazing, and when I got home to work out all of that pent up sexual frustration, that felt amazing too

What was weird was that earlier in the day I wasn't horny at all, then I saw a girl who just triggered something and it was like someone flicked a switch. I was in total flirt mode for the rest of the day. Women were leaning in close when they were talking to me, touching me, and flirting back. With one of the girls at the conference, t was almost like we were having sex with our eyes and body language (as corny as that sounds!)

Again, totally agree. Sometimes you think you "need" it, but really it's just a "want", out of frustration or boredom. If you hold off until you're hard as a rock out of nowhere and full of teenage sexual excitement like I was last night, the proceeding "fun" will be 10X better than if you just did it out of habit.

I do think porn is harmful, if abused. Everyone on NoFap has abused porn and felt it's effects, or why else would be we here? This isn't to say that we shouldn't ever watch porn or masturbate again, we just need to start choosing our moments. A spur of the moment self pleasuring session that comes about because you're super horny out of nowhere is one of the most satisfying experiences you can have...Yeah you might feel a little tired afterwards, but you would after sex too!

Glad to hear we're on the same page.

Feel free to drop me a PM if you want to discuss further

I could do with someone to chat to who's on my level.

x

 

I don't quite know what you mean by that statement,

Please elaborate...

Unless you were just making an unhelpful and unnecessary comment, in which case don't.

 

Every scientific fact begins with a theory. Also, no, it's not a fact.

I came here in order to kick a habit I've developed around porn. My goal was never to abstain from it forever. As I mentioned in an earlier post which I'm sure you haven't read, each of us came here with a different set of goals in mind. Yours may have been to cut PMO out of your life forever, mine was not.

I hate people like you. You invade threads and spout scaremongering statements like "all porn is bad" "all masturbation is bad" when it is not. People take something like porn and MAKE it bad due to their poor choices and lack of self control. Mine for instance, was binging. I started this thread because I wanted to share MY personal experiences and hear back from other fellow users, who all apart from you, have given me some insightful details into their own habits and also provided constructive advice.

I can tell just from your profile picture what kind of guy you are, and it's cute that you inferred that I don't respect my girlfriend because I "talk about naked women", and can appreciate a woman's sexuality.

Now please remove yourself from this thread, and a word of advice, stop being such a fucking bitch.

 

Did you read the first thing I wrote before I started writing this post?

I was specifically NOT looking for an argument, I just wanted to know if anyone here had experienced anything similar to me, or would like to share (constructive) thoughts on the matter.

You're missing the entire point my friend.

My point was, that most of us on this forum are here because we've developed a compulsion; a habit of watching porn on a regular basis with no control over whether we do or don't. On the day in question, it was the first time that I can remember that I masturbated out of what I FELT was a need, and not a want. As I keep stating, everyone comes here with a different set of goals, and currently I am meeting mine. Just because they don't correlate with yours doesn't mean that they're wrong.

I imagine you knew you were going to get pissed off by my post just by the title, and yet you read on, so I'm not going to apologise for anything.

My girlfriend and I are human beings, not robots. We are aware that just because you are in a relationship, you don't suddenly lose all sexual attraction to other people. It's a healthy way of controlling jealousy, and it works for us. That's the end of it.

This is again my whole point, I'm saying that you can! We all enjoy porn, there's no denying that. It's what got us here in the first place. All I'm suggesting is that instead of pulling the plug completely, we learn to have a healthy relationship with it again.

Yeah, I got horny and jerked off. I still don't regret it, and I didn't post this thread in order to start an argument. If you want to properly engage in a discussion with me, I'd be happy to, but if you're going to behave like captain white knight above, please leave and vent your annoyances elsewhere. There are plenty of other users here who have adhered to the former.

 

But that's just like, your opinion man...

 

That's awesome man.

I totally appreciate, and have experienced the feelings that come with abstaining from PMO for extended amounts of time. I found that it was more the cutting out of masturbation and as a result, ejaculation, rather than porn that really helped me, and made me feel awesome!

Having been in a relationship for 18 months, it's difficult for me to abstain from ejaculation now, as I think my GF would wonder what was wrong :')

 

Literally the perfect response.

If only everyone on here adopted your mindset.

I will be updating my progress as I go.

This is all about research for me, and working out what is best for my body and mind.

 

Preach it!

You're exactly right. I posted this thread to gain an insight into what others were experiencing on their journey, and if I could relate to anyone here.

I believe I have found the right path for me, and am investigating it further so as to pass on my experiences to others who feel they may feel benefit from NoFap goals that don't involve turning yourself into a sexless husk with zero social skills.

Again, spot on. There are no "facts" here, only experiences, opinions, and trial and error. Granted, this is how all scientific facts come to be, but the NoFap is still very much a social experiment. It's one which has returned some very interesting and compelling results, but please do not try to state anything here as fact.

Elitism is not welcome here. Shooting people down and telling them they're "wrong" is a sure fire way to set them back even further than you already deem them. Maybe instead of just dismissing other experiences, you should just accept that a person with a completely different mind, body and soul is recovering in a different way.

Yes, we're all here because of a problem we've found with PMO, but we're not all 30 year old virgins who have spent the last 15 years of our lives spunking into tissues in our parents basement. We've all experienced addiction differently, and so we will recover differently.

Accept that.