I need advice - bikini profile picture

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by EndlessRollercoaster, Jun 27, 2016.

  1. EndlessRollercoaster

    EndlessRollercoaster Fapstronaut

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    Whatsapp is a very neccesary application for me: i need it for schoolprojects and it's the only social media I am currently active on.

    Now I have this problem, because one of my best friends, who I have always find a very attractive girl, changed her profile picture into a bikini picture and I cannot get my eyes off it! It is really annoying because she has been texting me all day about random shit. Also yesterday she sent me pictures of her trying summer clothes and asked me which I thought looked best (i don't know why, she knows I suck when it comes to fashion)

    Anyways, I've had many urges today and I can't stop thinking of that picture, which is actually really creepy but I can't help it. I don't have problems avoiding it atm, but I still feel a sense of relapse. Ussually I don't feel this way about bikini pictures, it is just that I know her in real life is what is making this particular picture to exciting.

    What do you guys think about this?
     
  2. Stop thinking about the picture. Pure and simple. When your find yourself thinking about that picture, pay attention to your breath instead. Or try to feel the aliveness in your body. If you do this, the image of the picture will swiftly vanish from your mind.
     
  3. Bartimaeus

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    You're her friend. Tell her the effect it has on you. She might not realize. Maybe she wants a relationship with you. Maybe she doesn't care. Either way, you have nothing to lose being more honest with your friend.

    You don't have to ask her to change it. You can just ask her to excuse you if you choose to just SMS or email her instead, right? I mean your friendship is stronger than the convenience of a particular app, right?
     
  4. EndlessRollercoaster

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    Thank you! The breathing method is very helpful! And god do I love Bob Ross haha
     
  5. EndlessRollercoaster

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    Thank you for your reply! It's not really an issue for me to stop looking at it once I recognized I probably shouldn't, it's just that I feel relapsed because I had been looking at it like that. I could have said no, don't click on it. Instead, I clicked on it and scanned the entire picture :(
     
  6. Gelandewagen

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    Hot women and images will always be out there and that's fine. That's great! It's not about shutting your brain or hiding yourself from them but to react in a different way
     
  7. Bartimaeus

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    Don't sweat the small stuff, man. If you just looked, then you edged. You didn't relapse. Stop edging, and you'll stop relapsing. Don't feel guilty. Just get up and keep going!
     
  8. AllanTheCowboy

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    If she was flirting/hinting, would you be interested?

    If yes:
    Ask her if she's flirting with you. If she says yes, ask her out, but tell her about your addiction, so she knows what she would be getting into. If she says no, tell her how the pics affect you and ask her not to ask you questions about her appearance and clothes, because it makes you have disrespectful thoughts about her, and you want to respect her.

    If no:
    Assume she isn't flirting and, as above, tell her how the pics affect you and ask her not to ask you questions about her appearance and clothes, because it makes you have disrespectful thoughts about her, and you want to respect her.
     
  9. therealjocab

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    You'll be fine if you can avoid small temptations like these and keep your focus on something productive and otherwise joy filling.
     
  10. TheWannabe

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    She might want to get in your pants. Ask her to stop.
     
  11. Tj720

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    If every guy on here considered it a relapse every time we saw and were attracted to a woman or a picture of a woman, we would all likely be on day 0. There is nothing unhealthy about being attracted to the girl. You are right that you want to think of her as a person and not an object to be fantasized over, but your reboot will get you there if you are patient. I agree with what was said earlier that you should tell her. If she is really your friend she will understand and respect that you don't want to see her that way but it is hard for you not to at this point in your life. If she doesn't want to change the picture ask to use a different app or just text like normal.
     

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