I need advice

Hi there! Firstly, welcome to the community...

That's unfortunate, if his actions and words have shown that he isn't going to change his lifestyle, I am sure there's nothing you can do about it.

He is showing you the way to the door. What can I say... I don't think there's any benefit in staying with a person who doesn't want you to stay any longer.

The ball is in your court. It's your life and I think you deserve better things and shouldn't be scared of making a change if that's the only option left. It's a hard situation to be in. And my sympathies are with you. May you find the strength and clarity to make the right decisions.

 

Porn makes them lazy and between porn and all the masturbating, his brain is rewired. to get hard and off. I ask mine to put lotion on my back, he said i knew you would find a way to get me to touch you. He probably is still using with the way he is speaking to you. I agree with above, to heal is to get out! I am sorry though. I am done with mine after all these years and its great!

 

When I asked for foreplay he asked me what the hell was wrong with me, we can not change them, they have to change themselves.

 

Pornography changes how a man views his partner. Study after study proves this. He has damaged his brain in the same way a heroin addict has, he just used a different method to get his dopamine high. You cannot force him or convince him to change. Only he can come to the point where he realizes he is doing actual harm to himself and others. Once he gets to that point, only he can make the choice to fight his addiction or not. You can only control you. You can start getting help for yourself, start setting up boundaries that make you feel safe, comfortable. My only boundary with my husband is one more lie and I divorce him. I will fight with him but I won’t fight for him. I deserve the truth.