I Need Ecouragement

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by AgnosticBuddha, Jul 3, 2014.

  1. AgnosticBuddha

    AgnosticBuddha Fapstronaut

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    I was astronomically depressed today. Woke up at 12:30 and ate almost nothing but ice cream all day accomplishing nothing.

    I find myself reaching into my pants too much and watching slightly racy videos. I hope I'm not breaking down. I've gone a week and a half now. I wanna keep going.

    What hopeful things can you guys tell me? I struggle with anxiety and depression and low self-esteem. Do you think tackling this masturbation thing will make a difference?

    I'm a tall, handsome guy yet I have days and weeks like this. I feel like I'm missing out on life. I'm trying to dig myself out of this solitary confinement I've developed. I don't want to be nervous around people. I don't want to be constantly frustrated to the point I don't want to be anyone. I don't want to hate myself.

    I'm really hoping getting rid of PMO will improve my life. I've kind of put things like diet and exercise aside at the moment to focus on this bad habit. I'm really hoping it will make a difference. Will it?
     
  2. 215

    215 Fapstronaut

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    that was a terrible decision. Exercising and diet should be main focus now to keep you occupied and away from M.
    If you feel like shit go for a walk it helps a ton.
     
  3. Rootbeerdude

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    Yea I agree with 215. But just ask yourself, "will working out and eating quality food help fuel my mind to conquer this addiction? Or will they make me weaker?" Science supports the former. You've got this!

    And hang out with someone. No pressure. You don't have to go meet new people. A close friend for a movie. A nice phone call with your mom, dad, or sibling. We are hardwired for connection, and even simple things like that will get you on your way out of solitary confinement.
     
  4. IWantABetterLife22

    IWantABetterLife22 NoFap Moderator

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    One of the best ways I find to beat this habit is to make a game plan of how you're going to do it: Remove all access to porn, finding productive activities to occupy your time, spending time with others, finding social support, etc. So putting aside diet and exercise is basically setting yourself up for relapse. Like Alexander Rhoades said, don't make your life about NoFap. Find other things to do, to distract yourself. And if you think of not masturbating, then in a way you're still thinking of mastubating. Like Rootbeerdude said, eating quality foods and working out will make your body feel better and less inclined to masturbate.
     
  5. Lucca

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    I've struggled alot with this too. I think one of the best things you can do to help yourself is by helping other people, I know it isn't always easy to get started, or easy to find ways to volunteer, but when you get out there and do it and make a difference, you feel better about yourself for a good reason. I also think that happiness depends partly on just deciding that you can be happy. I was really depressed last summer, and for no apparent reason, so I decided that I don't really have any reason to be unhappy, there are a lot of people out there who are worse off than me and are very happy. I just decided I could be and was happy, and that brought me leaps and bounds forward. I don't fully know your situation, but I hope that helps. If you are really depressed for no apparent reason, you may also want to talk to a counselor if you don't already, it doesn't sound attractive I know, but it really does help. Diet and exercise are also great ways to boost your morale, and cutting the PMO habit will help a TON! You will feel healthier. Put your focus into becoming the man you always wanted to be, be a man of love. Its rough when the urges are so strong, but you can do it!
     
  6. stygian

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    Don't watch racy videos. I see that you've relapsed, so it's too late now, but watching racy videos should already be considered a relapse by itself. If you get through a day, even accomplishing nothing and eating ice cream, but you don't PMO, then you should consider it a success! This is how I evaluated my days. Don't think that you're being optimistic or silly by seeing things this way. The addiction is so hard to defeat that every day without it is a tremendous success, it's one day making the hold of the addiction on you weaker. When I was depressed I found it very difficult to make plans to exercise or anything else, I had to just take it one day at a time. Also you have to realize that PMO is the last resort. If you have to eat ice cream at this point to avoid it, then it's unfortunate but maybe necessary at this stage and tomorrow you can move forward from there.
     
  7. kingp1n

    kingp1n Fapstronaut

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    Hope you stay strong and keep going, I do think it will help for you. I've been in the situation where you seperate yourself from the rest of the world and feed the unhealthy habbits and basically don't look after yourself. It's a shitty place to be.

    You have to start with the small steps, taking basic care of yourself. That goes hand in hand with what you are trying to achieve with nofap.
     
  8. Anonymouse

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    Best thing to do now is not get down on yourself. Instead, see what went wrong and change it. I used to struggle with not being able to express myself when I was tempted with thoughts that led to porn or masturbation. Now instead I come to vent here on this website and at a weekly meeting I go to for addiction recovery. It's working wonders now. It gets better if you make the changes :)

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