I need help with my Femdom PMO addiction

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danielg

New Fapstronaut
Hi, this is my first post ever.

The reason I came to seek help to this website was because I have been PMO since I was around 13-14 years. It all started as vanilla and normal sex porn. Eventually, my interests/kinks/fetishes started escalating into joi, face-sitting, cei, leather, which took me into Femdom. This was a fun and intriguing idea since I got very turned on by the idea of a dominant woman in control. I started exploring many subcategories within Femdom. By this I got into Face-sitting, cbt, cei, humiliation, anal play, at a time to time got the urge to wear a pair of panties, and at the end (which I am now) I got into pegging. Which I know, its kind of deep into the rabbit hole.

The idea of a female doing this sort of things to me or forcing me to do them just turns me on completely compared to simple vanilla porn. The fact is, that I am terrified by this. I look back onto what I liked before and it has changed drastically. I can say that since I was little I found it attractive to have a woman face-sit me, but that was just it. A simple fetish. Now, everything has escalated massively and have a ton of "weird" fetishes in my point of view.

Nowadays, my social life is actually good, but the thing is that whenever I talk to a girl I always try to notice a dominant feature in her. Whether it being her aspect or her personality, since is what turns now turns me on. Recently I have come to the conclusion that this is not me, and I don't like this at all. I wish and would do anything possible to be the way as I was before. Just see woman as they are and not having any Femdom thoughts interact in my way.

I am currently 11 days into the NoFap challenge and seeking for more. What would you recommend me to do apart from NoFap until my "reboot" is completed? How am I sure if my reboot is complete? What has helped you? I really want to make this work. I really need some help to get my life back together. It would be greatly appreciated.

Best regards


P.S: During these days, since I stopped PMO I have even had vivid femdom dreams. I have had to awake myself due to the risk of unconscious MO. Are these dreams normal? And if by any circumstance I ejaculate while asleep, will my reboot have to start all over again?
 
danielg said:
I am currently 11 days into the NoFap challenge and seeking for more. What would you recommend me to do apart from NoFap until my "reboot" is completed? How am I sure if my reboot is complete? What has helped you? I really want to make this work. I really need some help to get my life back together. It would be greatly appreciated.
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Hey @danielg

I'm nobody special on here. Just a regular user saying, "welcome".

There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope).

My ESH is that NoFap is about action and that meant work for me. It is not about "not doing something", for me, it is about working my program.

Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

Learn the NoFap Program
The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

They are:

You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

Get Involved with the Community
The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

Remember, I'm just a normal user with no magic powers. But, I can:

  • Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH

  • Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles

  • Pick a forum and make sure every post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.

  • Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.
Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

--> D2L

PS – I Think of pmo like a wolf. If I Stay near the center of the group with the winners the wolf has a more difficult time finding me. But, stray near the edges of the community by not working my program and the wolf can pick me off.
 
danielg said:
What has helped you?
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Honestly abstaining from PMO and everything triggering helped me the most, i have the same fetishes as you do and abstaining alone seems to do the job. Hope it works for you too. Best of luck on your journey mate. If you have anymore questions please dont hesitate to ask.
 
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Honestly abstaining from PMO and everything triggering helped me the most, i have the same fetishes as you do and abstaining alone seems to do the job. Hope it works for you too. Best of luck on your journey mate. If you have anymore questions please dont hesitate to ask.
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This isn't something that will go away by abstaining from it. You could abstain from it as long as you like and will not stop getting turned on by it. I'm starting to wonder if some of the users are paid to promote nofap or something?
 
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