I need help

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Albert09, May 2, 2018.

  1. Albert09

    Albert09 New Fapstronaut

    I am a 28 and my attempts to stop fapping have been unsuccessful with streaks of one of two days max for the last year. I need to stop this behavior for me to have a real relationship which I know I am definitely capable of. I am extremely successful financially and personally I am a good person but need to turn my life around. Which sort of medical professionals do you suggest I visit?

    Thank you!
  2. SiNA2020

    SiNA2020 Fapstronaut

    Hi Albert ,

    I congradulate on your career life . It seems PMO never had negative impact on all areas of your life ! It is a good sign which indicates your internal strength is high! I guess the sexiologists are good choice as well as psychologists . My personal experience shows there are many nice women out there waiting for your move. Just look for one you like and you'all definitely find one. Do become disappointed dude!

    SiNA ,
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  3. Grue

    Grue Fapstronaut

    I don't think getting medical professionals involved is necessary. It's a matter of discipline, plain and simple.
  4. Ezpz

    Ezpz Fapstronaut

    what a poor statement. Addiction is not 'just a matter of discipline'.

    Medical help/therapy can be a huge help because there is generally an underlying issue that needs to be taken care of and sometimes you have to admit to yourself that you can't beat this alone.
  5. Hi Albert. I am unsure what your attempts to stop masturbating (to porn I presume) have actually been. You registered with the site a few months ago and this is only your third post. Is there any reason why you have not engaged with the community here? Have you educated yourself about the reasons why the PMO addiction is so harmful? Have you got an accountability partner to discuss your resets and relapses with? Are you a pragmatist and, if so, what strategies and countermeasures have you used to deal with urges to repeat these behaviours within a couple of days of each other?

    On the scant information you have provided, it appears you are simply using willpower to deny yourself instant sexual gratification. As you have discovered, that does not work. I recommend a new approach with the resources here before seeking professional help. Also check out:- https://yourbrainonporn.com run by the scientist Gary Wilson.
  6. Albert09

    Albert09 New Fapstronaut

    Thank you guys.

    Yes, it been to porn but mostly fantasies about regular girls and mostly girls on IG. It's gotten to the point I can't obtain an erection with the girl i'm messing around with. So I pretty much lost interest and don't bring her back to my place to avoid embarrassment. Yes, i'll definitely want to be more active on the posting boards as I need to be pushed to chance even through I want nothing more it's a habit I need to break.

    I currently have no methods or strategy to stop my urges just willpower and it's definitely not working.
  7. outwithold

    outwithold Fapstronaut

    Check out meetings, maybe a counsellor too, put things in place for you to do at the times you generally start giving into the urges, work on self improvement..understanding yourself, triggers, be kind to yourself.. Work on a positive way to self manage basically.
    Its a work in progress and a lifestyle.
    I wish you well brother.
  8. treborn

    treborn Fapstronaut

    hello albert, I remember that time ago I went to a sexologist to see if I really suffered from compulsive masturbation or were just paranoia that I did, the doctor gave me my fears, suffering from compulsive masturbation, I talked a bit about my sexual situation , of my past, etc. etc. I finally asked him how I could get out of this terrible situation, he told me that there are no drugs or ways to stop it, you have to engage with willpower, I tell you this to "prepare" in case you want to go to a sexologist. I was masturbating about 5 or 6 times a day on porn about, now I managed to find a self control after only 5 months, if I did it, you can do it too.
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