I need help

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Anubiy, Dec 4, 2019 at 6:54 AM.

  1. Anubiy

    Anubiy Fapstronaut

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    Hi. I discovered nofap a few months ago. I wanted to do nofap to gain more confidence, more motivation ,to get rid of my fetishes and to actually enjoy something in my life. I have severe inferiority complex all my life and I have social anxiety to the point where I couldn't even talk to people like cashiers in the supermarket and stuff. They were caused by terrible people whom I had met early in my life. I want to talk about this fetish. It was caused by how bad I am at socialising. I have nearly no friends and have not talked to a female for like 6 years. I'm sick of this. I'm sick of everything. I absolutely done. Done. Done. I'm going to make a change through nofap.
    The problem is , before I discovered nofap, I multiple times tried to stop fapping but It made me very unmotivated and tired and anxious (always immediately after I stopped fapping. Could this be a flatline or just me? Am I a abnormally?)and eventually I gave up and ended up fappign like crazy. I know the benefits of nofap I had experienced them myself as I did not masturbate for like 5 days due to sickness. I felt like an entirely new person and went to search the internet to find out about nofap. The thing is, I really cannot afford to be tired, unmotivated and anxious as my exams are in like 11 months. Should I start nofap after the exams? I'm in a dilemma right now. If I do start now, how to i not feel terrible? Jogging would not be possible as I an scared to be outside. Music works but not that much and sugar only makes me feel happy for 2 hours. It took a lot of courage for me to write this as I had never posted anything to the internet before. Sorry if you have a hard time reading English is not my first language.
     
  2. Fenix Rising

    Fenix Rising Fapstronaut

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    Hi Anubiy, it's great you've gathered the courage to join NoFap community. From what I've read you have some serious social anxiety issues. This is a common problem associated with addictions. We try to self-medicate discomfort/pain by becoming addicted. To be honest NoFap will probably make things worse in the first months of recovery BUT that shouldn't demotivate you not to start a reboot process. I'd also advice you to seek professional help as your agoraphobia sounds pretty debilitating. Cognitive behavioral therapy would be the best solution if it's accessible to you. Here are some links to the post I've made in my journal about how to control your anxiety/depression and self-esteem. Maybe you can find some useful tips in them for yourself:
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  3. Anubiy

    Anubiy Fapstronaut

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    Maybe I will try one month first to see if nofap will work and that it will get better after it.Thank you for replying you have given me hope.
     
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