i need help

Of course you’ve been dishonest, you are a cowardly scumbag like the rest of us. Beating off to porn over and over and over again instead of walking right up to the women you think you might want to go to bed with and expressing your interest.

I am 37 years old and am only just beginning to understand that I have treated women like missing pieces of my life to maneuver into place instead of thinking feeling people who’d prefer to make up their own minds about what they want.

We both get to choose whether we are resentful or grateful for their impact on our lives.

And believe me, if you get your shit together and really start offering something of value to the people in your life and the world at large you will find that you have way more options than you think you do.

 

I don’t personally believe in god, but I don’t think lustful thoughts are all that helpful either. They are the sort of thing you have to learn how to handle, guide, redirect, and abandon. You aren’t likely to succeed completely in this endeavor, but it is the endeavor a man ought to make. I think people are a lot better off when they contain their desires in a relationship that goes beyond the physical but I have a lot of difficulty aligning my actions with those thoughts.

Broadly speaking, women are interested in what you have offer them. They are not interested in what you need from them. If you make your relationships about your wants, your needs, and your feelings you won’t find yourself where you want to be. At least I haven’t. If you make your relationships about what you have to offer, what you can provide, and choosing people worthy of your care you are more likely to get what you want: a women you can take to bed again and again without regret. At least that’s what I want.

Your success is desirable to both women and men. When your success is built on something real you will draw in others who understand that success is a mutual endeavor. Your success is their success and their success is your success. I want to see you succeed because that will give me confidence that my life experience is valuable to others. Your friends want you to succeed because it will inspire their confidence in themselves. If he can do it, so can I. And the women you know want you to succeed because they are looking for men they can take to bed again and again without regret too.

How much time do spend thinking about success, what it looks like, and what it means to you? Who do you know that is successful and what are they doing that you can learn?

 

Skills and your own personal character.

Your character is the best place to start, and start by just being positive and upbeat! People will look at you and think "whatever he has going on, I want to be a part of it". Display confidence, courage, honor, and loyalty and people will flock to you. You'll also teach yourself to be respectful and to control your thoughts. Develop skills that people need: first aid, technical skills, repair skills (i help my friends install appliances and set up wifi, etc.).

Basically: imagine what the perfect man would be... and then be that man. Control of yourself, purpose, and love will gravitate to you!

 

Im not

 

Bro, you have nothing to prove to me. I am sure you are the nicest of guys.

 

Im not much nice , depends