I need some advice to safe my relationship

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Godar123, Jul 31, 2018.

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  1. Godar123

    Godar123 Fapstronaut

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    Hi,

    well my addiction story starts since i was young. it became a real prblem when i got to university. i started dating this girl and i remember that the first time we tried to have intercourse, my little friend didnt work. I was ashame. because of that and other things i started to work harder in my problems. my gf and i broke up because i didnt want her to be collateral damage of my addiction and during last summer i tried super hard. The longest i went without it was 3 and half weeks and i was already getting boners and i did felt way better. when i came after the summer to universit, i was more confident and i went out again with my girlfriend. at the moment of having sex. it was amazing, i used a condom and i was not soft and i had no issue. we started dating again. however, my life became more stressful and i started relapsing more often. with this i started seeing how it was harder for me to mantain erections and now i cant mantain erections with a condom at all. I have been 16 days without pmo, i almost relapsed a couple times but stopped myself. My big problem is that now it is so much harder for me to cum and i only cum in an specific position, sometimes i dont get hard and i only get hard if i get hard myself and rarely by itself. my erections only last a couple minutes and it is enbarassing. I also feel more sexul to any other woman, i feel i am always chequing out other girls and looking at their asses. i feel extremely anxious about this because i feel it happens a lot. i dont know what to do because i have been 16 days without porn and things have not change as much but got worst. i want to know what you guys think and if you guys have any tips for me because i feel bad for my gf even tho she supports me. I also feel super weird this days, like if i had no libido.
     
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    Quit trying to have sex for now, quit trying to get yourself hard. Be open and honest to your gf why you are doing this. Stop ogling women. I know it is a lot harder than just stopping. But you need to push yourself. 16 days is nothing. Some guys take months or longer to get it back. After you start trying to have sex again when you can get an erection naturally just have sex with no goal. If you orgasm then great, if not try again at another time.
     
  3. Godar123

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    thank you so much, i think thatis a great advice, an advice for the fact that i am starting to sexualize my female friends, i hate this cause i feel guilty and tbh i want them as friends but i am starting to really and i say really necause it is all the time to their bod parts
     
  4. The longer you are staying away from P and M the less your mind will automatically see them as objects. Don't give up. And make sure you are open with your gf about these things.
     

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