I need some sort of help

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by R2Bees, Feb 27, 2018.

  1. R2Bees

    R2Bees Fapstronaut

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    Just waiting on my tracker to reset but im on 1 day currently, i know the things i should do to try and help me quite masturbating and watching porn, but im depressed, lonely, slowly lost all my friends and have no motivation to do things that'll help me change other than sit in front of the tv playing xbox for most of the day. i found that coming to uni has just made me worse and this is when i started losing my friends. i know have a very different perspective and my self doubt has increased like mad. this wasnt me before even when i was masturbating everyday, i still had friends, my self doubt wasnt so much that everytime i want to talk to someone i start crumbling and im sure everyone can see im a nervous wreck at the moment. my way of thinking has changed and i just feel like crying as my life taking such a downhill at the moment. so so so many things on my mind right now but most importantly, my grades are not looking very good right now. i just need to get my old self back, my funny loud and playful self but right now i cant find it. nobody at my uni knows me for who i am because ive hidden in my shell long a enough to give that vibe that i dont talk much. nobody here knows the real me and im sorry for this long text, i just have a lot going on right now and im not in a good place. i just some reasurrance from people that i can do it because i want to. i want to stop masturbating and regain my confidence that i once had.
     
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  2. UDK

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    Get outside, join at some activies involving groups, play team games. Go to gym. just go outside if you cant do nothing just sit alone. But go interact!
     
  3. Timeon

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    Build interest because that is what makes you interest-ing to people.
    Because in order to have friends, you yourself have to be friendly to others.
     
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  4. R2Bees

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    how can i build this interest, i have gone for walks before and i just look at nature, dwell on the fact that im suffering and i really dont actually make any friends. the best that happens is just saying hi to someone that ive spoken to before and i dont know how to make friends with them, they just see me as that person they know and not actually a friend at all. but for other students tho, everyone just seems to know each other so well and they get along.
     
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  5. RememberWhyWeQuit

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    Hey, I understand what your going through I feel the same battling against self doubt and depression it's very difficult and your mind is currently trying to convince you to be down. Remember who you are and just keep persevering everyday look back at things that interested you before, go to family members, try to contact old friends, and obviously as people stated try meeting others. I know it's going to be a big step as you might seem different and will feel nervous. Realize that people are nice and that you are a beautiful person and you are still the same funny person you were before. I believe in you and so do many others in this community this is definitely an uphill battle but, keep fighting!
     
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  6. This is a big part of it - your addcition wants the dopamine it got from you watching porn, so it will try to make you miserable to get it.

    It gets better after the first few days, especially the first week.
     
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  7. R2Bees

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    Would it be alright if i waited a few days until i feel ready to come out, that's if i don't masturbate?
     
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  8. Hi.
    Its very important to understand that:
    1. Its always gonna be hard picking yourself up. If it were easy, everybody could do it.
    2. The first step is the longest stride. It sometimes may not seem like much, but the boost that comes with it can save you.
    3. Its good to surround yourself with people. You dont need many, just a few that care.
    4. Having a goal and pushing through even when your down will help in the long run. Try to keep yourself busy to reduce how often your mind wonders aimlessly.
    5. You have to be willing to change.

    I struggle too sometimes (more often internally than externally) so i am trying to change too.

    I believe in you.
     
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  9. R2Bees

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    Thanks guys, im slowly beginning to see some changes. I was at work today and everything seemed fine, people smilling being nice to me and thats something i havent seen in a while. Maybe this is a good sign but there is still a long way to go. I have had a few episodes where i want to go and masturbate but i wont let myself do that.
     
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  10. Dave Samwel

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    AMONG OTHER REASONS THAT GOT ME TO NOFAP IS "ASTROLOGY". As you, i have lost my self innocense from intense bullying at school and even home. And also my innocence have been taken off by someone without me knowing, as i am always sad too. But indepth of astrology i got to realise my jupiter is in the 8th house and i have a huuuge ability to kill off a bad habit.
    I am not a very strong person in reality and have alot of personal weakness from listening, procastination, eating, mixing up with my peers to masturbation some can be alcoholism which i dislike. And with that jupiter aspects i am more able to kill those habits.
    But somethings are not so natural all times, as after i involved myself into deep search reading i came to realise theres nothing motivates me as people. Some is different. They may need to depend more on themselves than anyone i agree but personally having people arround me motivated me alot. I lost a bunch of friends and sometimes were alone but kept the ones that gave me what i need.
    I may sound bad but i became an opportunist, i beneft from other peoples lives. I realised myself was an incomplete creature and with my brains i could pick up from afew to improve myself.

    I'd suggest you digg deep to whom you really are, know what you need and if its change realise what you are missing out and realise the pain that you dont want to feel anymore like the pain of guult after masturbating and go for it. Stand for what you think is right as well as accepting advice.
    Goodluck.
     
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  11. Thats the spirit. :)
     
  12. R2Bees

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    How long would it take before i can start seeing a lot of positive changes, my self confidence and esteem is still all the way down and i dont want this to be my life forever. Should i consider counselling?
     
  13. Clauss24

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    Go now, and look at the mirror. Look beyond the superficial cover. Beneth where you truly have your inner power, strength and confidence. Dig deep, be patient, endure the pain, the pain is the price you pay to invest in the best version of you. Start now, start everyday, keep trying. You will be making your dreams
     
  14. Clauss24

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    Btw when you are fapping the whole life seems dark. People seem to frown on you when in reality they are not. Just that lifeless lifestly kills hope
     

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