I need tips on how to stop the urge.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ClaudiusMoon, May 3, 2019.

  1. ClaudiusMoon

    ClaudiusMoon Fapstronaut

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    My first attempt at nofap went surprisingly well. I lasted 62 days but foolishly believed I had control over my addiction and could handle one or two sessions of PMO without consequences. My run came to an end at the start of the year. Since then I have went through periods of wanting to stop PMO and not been bothered as it was too hard. My longest run since then was 13 days. I thought I had got to grips with it but on a long sexually frustrating day I eventually caved and I wasn't even annoyed. The majority of my periods of abstinence lasted only 4-5 days.
    However, that lapse, after 13 days, lead to my worst PMO streak in months, which made me feel worse each time I did it. Finally, I realised that although there is an undeniable pleasure in PMO it is short lived but the guilt and shame and depression caused by not being able to control my own decisions lasts much longer and has ramifications on many aspects of my life.
    After this realisation I began my reboot once again and have overcome the 13 day mark. I know this sounds like I am getting back my control but I feel more vulnerable than ever and the last week has been a real challenge. Each night is a mental struggle between desire and will power, with each emotion pushing their agenda firmly in my mind.
    I really don't think I can fight this fight much longer and would be grateful to anyone who has had similar experiences and share their tips on how they handled them.
    Thanks.
     
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  2. jazzman1

    jazzman1 Fapstronaut

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    I would suggest using a software that blocks adult sites from your phone or computer. Throw out any videos. Try picking up a hobby and spending time with friends and family. Try keeping yourself busy to keep your mind away from urges. If you feel urges go for a walk or run. Hope this helps. Stay strong and never give up this fight. You can do it and were all here for you.
     
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  3. Venu Bobby

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    Welcome to NoFAP Community,bro.
    NEVER GIVE UP on your challenges.Be confident,Stay faithful,Never loose your confidence.Accept the mistakes that u had previously done and Learn from those mistakes as well to not repeat those again in your life. Avoid all your temptations.Stay away from all those which will trigger ur temptations. Stay around people. Don't prefer to stay alone. Spend less time in BATHROOMS and TOILETS.Don't use mobiles or lappys or PC's privately.Install porn blockers in all ur devices.Pour some ICE WATER or ICE CUBES on ur penis if u get the sensation of M'ing. Don't ever try to touch ur penis.As soon as u get temptations get out of ur room and be in the room where there are people around you.Start a challenge of NoFap for 1 month and try to achieve it. It will be difficult at the beginning but we must overcome the difficulty to quit P&M.Make a challenge and try to achieve it, after achieving make it to 2 months then 3 and so on.
    NEVER GIVER UP and NEVER LOOSE UR CONFIDENCE.All the best.Do it well.QUIT PM.
     
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  4. Majik

    Majik Fapstronaut

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    I am impressed with the 62 day streak, well done! How did you achieve that one?
     
  5. ClaudiusMoon

    ClaudiusMoon Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the advice guys. Thankfully the last couple of days have been very busy for me so I simply haven't had the time to be tempted, which I suppose goes to show that keeping busy really works.
     
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  6. ClaudiusMoon

    ClaudiusMoon Fapstronaut

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    Thanks Majik. I guess I didn't put much pressure on myself at the start. I was fed up of constant PMO and really wanted to change so I set myself a short term goal of one week but then I seen a lot of people doing No Nut November which coincided with my streak so I decided to aim for that too. The longer I went the stronger my will power became and the more proud of my streak I was so I didn't want to break it.
    Practically speaking I just never hit the 'incognito' button on my browser as I knew no good could come of it. And whenever an urge hit I constantly reminded myself why I did not want to act on it. I still do this now but the urge can be very hard to overcome. I definitely agree though that going out or doing something proactive is a great remedy for dousing the desire.
     
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  7. Majik

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    That is a good tactic. I actually look at THIS site through the incognito window, which is a little bit silly I guess. Something I should probably change, just to keep me that one step further away from temptation!
     
  8. PMO IS NEVER AN EXCUSE.

    there is only one reason that you relapse. Not the triggers, not your urges. IT IS YOU! YOU DON'T WANT TO DO NOFAP SO YOU DO PMO INSTEAD! You are not dedicated enough so you end up failing. NOTHING IS STOPPING OR MAKING YOU TO DO PMO, OTHER THAN YOURSELF. Nobody is pointing a gun at you to either fap or die. NO DUDE! It is an obsession and you choose porn. The door to heaven is always opened, but just that you don't want to leave hell. If this the case then I can't help.

    Good luck on your reboot journey

    I suggest you watch this whenever you feel horny : [​IMG]
     

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