I need your help.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by CelticBoi, Jul 31, 2020.

  1. CelticBoi

    CelticBoi New Fapstronaut

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    Hello. While I do not know if anyone will see or read this I would just like to finally get this off my chest. This is the first actual post I have made on the site, having been a lurker for quite some time but was hesitant to make an account in case my family found out. To tell a little bit about myself, I’m Irish, am a young guy, am single, a virgin and also religious. For the last two years I have been heavily addicted to internet pornography and compulsive masturbation. While I have attempted many times to quit my filthy habits, I have mostly been met with failure at nearly every turn. While I have struggled for what has felt like forever, I know that this is no way to live and that the best way to tackle this thing is by seeking help from those who were in the same situation as me but have since defeated their addictions and gotten their lives back. If any of you guys have any good advice or further direction for me it would be much appreciated. To all other young lads like me who are struggling to quit, never stop fighting. God bless.
     
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  2. Omda72

    Omda72 Fapstronaut
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    We all went through this hard time , but believe me this site would radically help you to quit masturbation, please stay strong and read as much as you can from such successful stories here , it's motivating and informative.
     
  3. runner0424

    runner0424 Fapstronaut

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    I relapsed twice after 6 months or so from porn each time. I’m currently 5 months and 2 and half weeks or so free from that relapse.

    I have learned a lot in my struggle with porn. One, is what triggers me. A lot on the internet and tv triggered me(seeing beautiful women). I believe my last relapse was super bowl halftime show, I didn’t relapse that night, but like a week or two after it, but those images stayed with me and I kept wanting more, even after 6 months.

    I also researched And watched videos of the science behind it all and it releases dopamine In your brain and scary how the addiction can become when I thought I could control it.

    The ways I feel like I have conquered it for good was that I had my wife put in an adult filter password that I don’t know what it is(it could be a friend if not married). It’s my backup plan when having a bad day and can’t see the adult sites. I also don’t watch shows that could trigger me and try to turn my head if I think a scene is coming. More importantly though, I have really grown in my faith with God. I have listened to so many sermons on temptations and that has helped me tremendously. Rick Warren and Greg Laurie are 2 of my favorites and have helped me a ton!! I learned about all the garbage I was putting in my mind. The analogy was how we have to watch what we eat, we can’t eat McDonald’s fried food every meal without bad consequences, the same thing applies with what you consistently put in your mind.

    Hopefully this helps and try and learn as much as possible and avoid whatever gets you tempted and triggered. Get going on another streak and make it a lifestyle change and don’t beat yourself up if you have a relapse. Just learn from it and keep trying to do better.
     
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  4. the_neet

    the_neet New Fapstronaut

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    hi,
    this also my just second day on this site but i think best moves to move from this addiction are:
    1) getting off from social media
    2) cutting off normal access to porn
    3) talking to a friend
    4) exercising as much as you can
    5) Main thing is releasing dopamine,which over the years we have become accustomed to release by watching porn. But you can do it through different things such as talking to your best friend,eating your favorite food,watching movies,etc...

    All the best

    P.S : if you need to talk to someone, text me whenever you like
     
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  5. Perhaps the hardest part in the process is the belief that victory is possible. It is. Be assured that you are able to choose something different, and that you can change your habits. Many here have done it. While I was never addicted to pornography, I have been addicted to the high that the "O" gives, and found it very difficult in the first weeks to muster up the resolve to be abstinent. No one here will tell you it is easy, but please know that it is possible. You seem to be a Christian--if so, ask God for help when you are tempted. It is your part to resist the temptation, and His part to help you change your tastes and desires when He sees that you are really in earnest about making the change. At the very first thought of doing what you do not wish to do, reject the thought immediately. Do not dwell on it. Ask God for help. Find something better to occupy your mind. Get some exercise. Do not linger in areas where you will be tempted more strongly. You can have victory if you choose it--but it will take strong decision. May God reward your efforts!
     
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  6. CelticBoi

    CelticBoi New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you so much for all the kind and thoughtful words of advice, guys. Although I had been struggling for quite some time, now that I have finally told people about this dreadful addiction I do not feel so alone in this battle anymore and feel much more encouraged to do better and learn from my mistakes. Starting from this week, I will try and limit my use of technology, get more exercise and have plenty of cold showers since I have heard articles on other recovery sites recommend them before. To hell with porn and to hell with fapping. My journey starts today. Wish me luck and keep fighting the good fight.
     
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  7. Omda72

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    You are not alone
     

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