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I need your help.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Dack Gun, Oct 26, 2021.

  1. Dack Gun

    Dack Gun Fapstronaut

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    Why do I need to stop PMO? Here are some answers that I can think of.

    I need to stop objectifying people. PMO ruins my social interaction with them and takes away my confidence to maintain a meaningful social relationship. This gives me social anxiety.

    I need to stop wasting my energy. PMO prevents me to get things done productively and takes away my motivation to actually do it. Those energies could be used to do something else that actually allows me to grow mentally and physically.

    I need to stop wasting my time. PMO shatters my sleeping schedule that most of the time I slept too much or too little. I should be using time wisely to generate wealth (since time is money).

    I need to focus on my goal. PMO makes everything else seem impossible to be achieved. I need the courage to crave for accomplishing something. Read that again.

    I need to live life as realistic as possible. PMO offers me to live in a fantasy world that doesn’t even close to reality. It makes me addicted to it because it is as though I get whatever I want. But actually, I get nothing. All I left with is dissatisfaction. Anxiety. Emptiness. My fantasy world is toxic.

    I need to change my bad habit to the good one. PMO wants me to do it daily, to normalize it into my lifestyle. What I didn’t realize, is that I continue objectifying people, wasting energy and time, not focusing on my life goal, live in a complete illusion. I am destroying myself from the inside out. I then become weaker. But I don’t want that. How? I guess I need to read this text from the beginning again...

    I am still struggling.
     
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  2. Dack Gun

    Dack Gun Fapstronaut

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    A few hours ago, I relapsed. I watched porn and it makes me feel so damn lonely as if I can never have a healthy relationship with someone.
     
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  3. jurte

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    Brother, that’s not true. Let me be real with you I’m currently in a gutter. Both mentally and physically, I’ve been trying to battle porn disease for almost three years now, and let me tell you, it’s hard. But, when I go back in my mind to the time when I was unaware of porn being harmful and used to masturbate everyday for five years 2-4 times a day it was hell. I had no social skills with girls, no relationships, I felt anxious and terrified all the time. Brother, you’re worth it, I’m emotional right now as I relapsed yesterday and chemical imbalance is clearly visible, but if I could I would give you a hug and tell you that it will be okay. I met the love of my life on my longest streak and as a result of not being committed truly to battling this disease I lost her, man we’re all broken, and even if our generation was never at war and is living somewhat stable lives we’re still pretty much fucked and the key to our freedom is in our sight, we just have to reach it by any means necessary. Stay on this path, be ruthless and be not afraid of changes, I’m not saying this to motivate only you, but to motivate myself as well. I don’t know your situation, but I feel you’re on the right path, believe and love yourself.
     
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  4. USER_ERROR

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    the night is young...
     
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  5. Dack Gun

    Dack Gun Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for sharing your story. It means a lot. I was trying to sleep but I can't, my mind won't shut down. It keeps on flashing those porn scenes I watched earlier and it's making me anxious. I was just about to watch it again, then I saw your reply, which helps me to think twice, so thank you. I also would give you a hug and say it's okay, we can do this! I hope we can be better at dealing PMO.
     
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  6. jurte

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    The only thing one can do with all the bad experience from porn addiction is to share his story. I’m here for you brother, we all are. Yes, it’s very common, today I couldn’t concentrate on my classes since I had those flashbacks from the day before. It’s normal man, I mean it’s horrible because every time we open porn site and make conscious decision of relapsing we are being bombarded with super stimulation of this artificial drug, so it will take some time (couple of days max) to get your brain cleaned from all this dirt. Just hang in there, I highly recommend you to read the book called “SPAM REMOVED (spam code #001) - REPORT TO MODERATION” by hackauthors. It’s not an advertisement haha, but it’s very helpful, helped me a lot.
     
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  7. astro916

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    Hey there brother, be strong. you are not alone. I went thru my reboot, and got to a level of success with it. It took my stubborn ass alot of embarrassment with girls to finally realize i had an issue. Went thru my reboot and withdrawals, found a level of success, then had a relapse a couple months later and I have a stress over it now thinking about how i lost my self control. Ive lost my morning wood again Im pretty sure, so not sure if thats a bad sign, i can get erect with my women, but the lack oif morning wood still brings concern. all of this its not an easy thing to do. its very hard. but the light at the end of the tunnel comes and its bright an worth the struggle. As good as you think PMO is, is never as good as the real thing and the feelings assocaited with that. I had my depression about it and struggles, but I stuck my claws into the reboot and gave it hell. Yes i did fail recently, but its been 2-3 month no mo, some porn watching but now thats be put away, and Im trying to forever never ever again pmo. dont give up, one day at a time. it'll get better eventually but you have to make the effort and stick to it.
    best of luck
     
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  8. Dack Gun

    Dack Gun Fapstronaut

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    I agree. I guess being aware is really important so that we don't lose our control easily... (simply curiousity) May I ask how old are you?
     
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  9. jurte

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    Awareness is foundation in my opinion. I’m 21, wbu?
     
  10. Dack Gun

    Dack Gun Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for sharing your story, this is so inspirational. I am actually surprised that you managed not to mo for 2-3 months. Can you share some ideas to help me deal it PMO? Reaching a week of not doing it feels really hard to me, and I fail most of the time...
     
  11. Dack Gun

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    I'm 20. It's really nice to meet you though :)
     

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