I never leave my house

You sort of contradicted the title with your first sentence, lol. Sounds like you enjoy being alone. Some people are more introverted that others. If you want to meet knew people then the best idea is probably to join a club that does a hobby you enjoy. You'll meet new people then. I've not tried to make friends in years. I only need a few and a girlfriend. That's enough for me. But I know some people are desperate to make as many friends as they can. That's not me. But if it was I'd join a whole bunch of different clubs that did things I enjoyed or would like to get into. Good luck. Just my advice..

 

Maybe you're just uncomfortable in that home environment? After all, you don't have to become a social person to meet all sorts of standards.

 

Nice bump

 

Yeah. Go out. Travel. Live. I don't think reading books is the answer. You're living in a small area. Have you travelled outside your area and seen the people? Each area in every country in the world has people with different thoughts, culture or way of thinking.. even within the same country! Find out what's stopping you. Don't let anyone influence you. Remove the shyness if it's there and rise.

 

I thoroughly understand what you're going through, I didn't have that much chance to socialise at University either because I had so much work to do, and I'm a homebody too, I don't give a damn about travelling and am happy to , but that doesn't mean you have to live as a hermit. You can still be an introvert and be sociable, and you don't have to be an extroverted life-and-soul-of-the-party type to be attractive to the opposite gender.

The best thing for you would be to go to societies and clubs that revolve around your interests, so that you can meet people who have at least one common interest, they're the ones who are most likely to be like-minded. You say you're learning guitar, why not try a music club in your local area? You also like reading - a book club is a great place to get to know other avid readers. Think about your other interests too and investigate where the nearest societies that indulge in these interests are.

 

I am also quite an introvert and enjoy spending time alone, but feel a lack of social interaction and even lonely sometimes, even having an amazing girlfriend now. Humans are social beings, so there is no way to escape suffering as a result from isolation.

This year I had a few months of cognitive-behavioral therapy and the only point that I left to be addressed in the future (due to corona), was precisely this: To find the right motivation to convince and motivate myself to spend more time around people, and just commit to doing it, because I know I need it.

I made the commitment to start any kind of weekly group activity. I'm thinking singing lessons (I play the drums and enjoy singing, love me some prog rock/metal) which I had started before corona, and maybe german language school, because I am living in Germany as a foreigner. In a more distant future I might also try some sports like kickboxing, which I before practiced during uni, or Krav Maga, or other form of arts, if what I mentioned before doesn't stick.

On top of that I made the commitment to try and search for ideas and invite some friend for us to do something together, also once a week.

 

Reading books about socialising. Bro.

If you wanna be better at socialising, you gotta socialize. Join a sports team, talk to your neighbors. You like guitar, go look for people who like guitar

 

It doesn't really look like you never leave your house. It just happens that some people enjoy their alone time. I am one of those people. But since I try investing, sometimes I am put in a position to socialize more than I want. I had currently bought a property near the sea and had started some courses on https://chaddo.com/index.php/brain-page-airbnb-bnb-formula-review/. I preferred them to be online because I don't feel like meeting more people. There is nothing wrong with being a loaner. But if you wish for that to change, try being more active in class. People tend to start talking a lot when they see you talk in class.