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Jaylen that fact that you're just 17 and have reached this stage means you're already in a winning position. You've identified your shortcomings and what you can do to change them. You know what you want. You're not just assuming that things will get better without focus and hard work, you're prepared to fight for it.

I envy you. I have reached similar conclusions to you but it happened very very gradually so essentially took me a decade longer to get to where you are. So you already have a ten year head start on me. But we'll both get there because we both know that nothing worth having comes easy.

So monitor and document your progress. Celebrate your successes. And continue to strive for the life you want mate because it's there for the taking if you want it enough.

All the best.

 

Hello there. I'm new here, but I think I can help you with a honest and realistic perception of things.
First of all, I don't think 235 lb is that much. I would advise you to work out a lot and very hard and it will do wonders.

I will be very honest and tell you that I don't think that being overweight is the cause of girls not being interested. Yes, of course, there are those girls who care only about the physical part and have high needs, but those are girls you cannot rely on in life because all they do is go to clubs and hang out with the richest and coolest guys out there. We all have the desire to be with one of those girls because they are beautiful, but I don't think any of them is up to something long-term. You will see that in the future.
But there are the other girls who care about who you are and are willing to be in a relationship. Those are the girls you should be looking for, as they are the smartest, cutest and most loving on the planet. And I don't think they care about physical appearance at all. All they care about is who you are.

I was thinking one day myself about what I would do if I met an overweight girl who is smart, loving and whom I like a lot, and I arrived to the conclusion that if she was the girl I want to be with, I wouldn't care about her being overweight. I'm 22 and virgin, but I believe that when you have sex, the physical feeling doesn't have anything to do with how the person looks and all that matters is the emotional part because that is the one which will make everything wonderful.

You are 18. You made mistakes, and that's totally fine. Many people don't realize they've made mistakes for a much longer time. You are smart and you are ready to change. Change will come for you!

Just live every day with the thought that you want to change and that's why you quit porn for good, and on the other hand, try to become smarter, funnier, more optimistic, more friendly, more helpful, and always try to get closer and closer to the ideal person that you think you should be.

I hope I helped you. I didn't write anything I didn't believe was true.

If I can help you with anything else, just write any questions and I will gladly answer them!

spiderboy

 

@Jaylen : i used to be insulted and looked down every day i was at your age. now i look back i find it very funny . thanks to my depression, no feeling means no sadness after being judged

 

Start lifting weights my man. Get in the gym. Get them gainz. All Kindz.

You've hit the reasons as to why you need to take this step, now don't look back.

Keep rising.

 

I am 20 and i feel the same way...you're way better off than me..