I quit

First, this is not a success story according to the following criteria: http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/success-story-guide-read-this-before-posting-here.40993/

Secondly, how can you watch people having sex with each other and not reset your counter, giving the impression you have been completely clean?

 

Soldier:

I read a lot of claims on this site about how quitting PMO will make you smarter, physically stronger, more attractive to the opposite sex and the like. I think many of these claims are highly questionable and should be taken with a grain of salt.

That doesn't mean giving up PMO won't change your life for the better; I think it will.

A more realistic set of expectations might be something like the following:

> You will be taking control over an important part of your life.
> You will be ending a habit that consumed major amounts of your time and energy for little result.
> You will be getting rid of something you are probably ashamed of.
> As a result, you will have more time, and energy, for other, more meaningful things.
> You will stop expending sexual energy for nothing. As a result, you may reasonably expect to have more sexual vigor.
> You will stop messing with your brain-sex-drive system; before you trained it to focus on fantasy/image/fapping. A real relationship benefits when this system is focused on the other person.
> Chances are, you'll have a better conscience.
> You'll be cleaning out your memory system of images you'd be highly embarrassed if everyone saw them.
> You may well, as a result of all this, feel better about yourself, about life, and have more confidence in your approach to life. And it's certainly possible this will be something others will pick up on, and find attractive (i.e., girls). No assurance.
> You may well find you have more focus on things that matter more. No guarantees, but it stands to reason.

But you know what? Ultimately, the reasons to do this must come from YOU. You alone know what ways PMO has cost you; and what you believe you will gain from giving it up.

 

I agree with @IGY and @Septimus the claims that this will make you superhuman is highly questionable at best and at worst an unattainable dream. I also agree that if you are looking at P then you need to restart your counter. Figure out what your goals are, mine is to be able to O with a partner. Goals are better the more realistic the are. In addition a lot of what you are complaining about is inconsistency in your outcomes like sometimes smart sometimes not smart. The brain is like a muscle and then on top of that it is reactive to your body. If you neglect one the other will suffer. In addition to NoFap -> Work out, read, study, sleep well, and eat well. That should bring consistency to your outcomes.

 

Sigh.. i don't get why people try to find loop holes or whatever the case may be. It's plain and simple.
1. don't watch porn or porn substitute (literature,youtube,Facebook,twitter,you get the idea)
2. avoid triggers
3. don't touch your dick.
If you did either of the 3 you reset your counter. Quit rationalizing and man up.
That "we're all different" crap people keep saying is down right stupid. It's as simple as 3 steps, the difficulty may vary but it involves the same damn issue. PORN.

 

I have a 36 day streak. In that time i did start to M or look at psubs.

But then midway i stopped telling myself it's wrong.

IMO this shows I am building a defence system and changing mindset.

A reboot isn't where you abstain from pmo forever all of a sudden. How can you possibly do this when you have a HABIT?

My habit is for 15 years... you cannot expect someone to eliminate a habit overnight and forever.

Look at those that smoke. Do they quit 30 cigarettes a day in one attempt but fail then beat themselves up about it or do they gradually reduce?

I think some people don't know the meaning of habit..

it is good you stopped. However don't break through the K9... it should deter you... i have disabled adult content from my mobile network provider... i could reinstate it but it is hassle and will prevent my prestigious progress!

 

Sup fellow fapstrounats! I need someone to like my comment, I need it to reset my counter...

 

I dont really believe in the superhuman thing, it was a temptation to start this journey for sure.. But the motivation with quitting for me is to cut out a distraction and an addiction, whether its a substance or a monitor screen. To make me more aware of the present and my own life. Yes it was depressing at first, because you get closer to yourself, for me that was pretty new. I want to connect with people and spread love. Porn really brainwashed me slowly but successfully. So if I wrap this up, I dont believe in the superhuman thing, maybe in the begining I felt it but later I just enjoyed a more present centered me with real realationships with women. Things is forever in change and motion, and nothing last, superhuman was just a phase for me as a manifestastion of a healthy change in lifestyle. Keep at it man if you think it will make you a happier human being! I belive in you

 

I dont think you necessarily become super human, but become human which is certainly a step up (for me at least). Stopping objectifying women leads to far better interactions with them, energy levels are restored to normal and I feel much more in control of my life and destiny. These are all about being human. I agree superhuman maybe an exaggeration, but being human is pretty super.

 

Also if most men are stuck in PMO then I guess you can expect a better than average life if off it.