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I really don't know where this falls on a damage scale...

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by GottaQuitSoon, Jul 14, 2015.

  1. Jul 14, 2015 #1
    GottaQuitSoon

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    This is the first time I've ever tried a reboot and I'm almost at the end of my 90 days. I've had no struggle quitting P what-so-ever (which makes me think maybe I wasn't actually addicted and just into some weird stuff. But quitting P isn't gonna hurt anyone so I'm gonna keep away) Anyway over the last few days I have been giving myself erections through touch and touch alone. No fantasizing, no P, no extra help of any kind. Also no M and no O. Just the erections.

    I guess my question is: Is this bad? I mean I'm delighted to be able to achieve this with no "extra help" and that I have the will power to not M and to just let it subside but am I doing damage? Am I undoing the last 90 days of work?

    **EDIT** Maybe I should mention it's been a 90 day hard mode challenge I've been doing.... Not sure if that would make any difference
     
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  2. Jul 14, 2015 #2
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    There is no hard and fast rule one way or the other. In general self touching for arousal is considered edging, which is considered masturbation by a fairly large group. My main issue with touching for arousal, and why I don't do it, is that it tends to inevitably lead to a fall.
     
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  3. Jul 14, 2015 #3
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    What kind of touching is it? I'm guessing it's not edging, but it is it a sexual touch?

    Those who practice semen retention would say it's fine. In the Eastern practice, this wouldn't be a problem. The main key with them is just to avoid ejaculation. However, I'm not sure what nofappers would say about this.

    A wise man I know said, "If you cannot touch yourself, then no one else should be able to touch you either."

    As long as you're not edging, I'm sure it's fine.
    To be honest with you, you already sound like you've rebooted anyway. It clearly sounds like you have no desire for porn consumption. If you want to practice your erections, be my guest. Let that be your reward.

    I'm sure some will disagree with me, though.
     
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  4. Jul 14, 2015 #4
    GottaQuitSoon

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    My understanding of the term edging was when one M to the just before an O and then stops. Which isn't even close to what I'm doing. That was my main point of confusion, because I wasn't sure if it counted as edging
     
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  5. Jul 14, 2015 #5
    GottaQuitSoon

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    I'm not sure how I would describe it but it isn't sexual. I'm also being quite wary of anyone that has sensitive triggers hence using the PMO letters instead of the words.

    It only started a few days ago when I was bored and curious to know if I was on a healing path I guess. I made sure that the was nothing sexual involved by keeping my self distracted by watching gaming videos on youtube (maybe that sounds lame but whatever, it made sure my mind didn't drift)

    I think that saying should be a lot more well known! And also seems to clear up any thing I have been wondering about

    But I hope your right about me being rebooted, while I'm not really noticing any big changes (like I did about 1 month in) I'm sure things have improved. I'm just a bit wary seeing as I'm coming so close to 90 days and it seems like I'm in what I think is a flatline
     
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  6. Jul 14, 2015 #6
    AlltheRageBackHome

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    Nothing wrong with watching gaming videos dude. I do from time to time as well. Gaming is just a hobby, nothing more, nothing less. In my book, as long as you're not doing PMO, everything else is fine.

    After reflecting a little bit more, I'd probably be really careful with the touching as if you get used to this habit, one day it may catch you off guard and it may trigger you. Try not to get too carried away. I know you're on a really good streak, but continue to keep your guard up and stay strong.
     
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  7. Jul 14, 2015 #7
    Jodokus

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    No worries man. Here we talk about that stuff. Only mentioning porn actors or sites or tell sexual explicit scenes (ok if somebody would be triggered by description of the male genital and how it is touched or not (s)he would have a big problem :D)

    I would be careful with arousal in all forms. The penis has a mechanism of self-errection. That is, when it errects it kinda stimulate itself. (I would be thankful if anyone could explain that in detail or could give a medical link ;))
    Therefor even when you aren't aroused anymore psycological, your boner can still swell.
    For me the formula is: the more I get aroused the more my sexual energy will pile up

    Today I had no erection :cool:
     
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