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I really need help

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Anonymous100, Oct 8, 2016.

  1. Oct 8, 2016 #1
    Anonymous100

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    Hi, I am 24. I am not a native speaker but I'll do my best.

    I have watched porn since I was very young. After a while I realized that only more extreme videos give me erections. Stuff like BDSM. And that is very, very ego-dystonic, this doesn't agree with my ideology, with who I am at all. So I guess I started not liking myself so much.

    Last year, my girlfriend and I tried to have sex. It was first time for me. She was sexually molested before and had a boyfriend who never penetrated because of ED. Not a great situation. We weren't able to achieve penetration.

    I tried to stop watching porn. I had relapses and periods when I watched loads of it. My case may be challenging because I watched porn for long before actually getting intimate with real women.

    I think my ED is porn and anxiety related. Not an other organic cause. This is because I am easily stimulated when I stop watching porn for a few weeks. I have erections. Thinking about women gives me erections. The act of sex though causes ED.

    This is a very big problem for me. I stay away from women that I may have a good relationship with because I am worried about ED. I also feel bad about not having sex yet.

    Do you think 90 days of no PMO will help?

    Thank you very much.
     
    Anonymous100, Oct 8, 2016
    Anonymous100, Oct 8, 2016
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  2. Oct 8, 2016 #2
    DBug

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    You started young as did I and many others. 90 days may not even be enough for us but you will get better if you stick with NoFap. On performance anxiety (which may come partly from your addiction) you will have to work on your own.

    Also getting women will become easier. And you should try in order to rewire your brain. Since you like me conditioned yourself to porn so young I wouldn't try sex before at least day 60. You very likely still won't be able to perform by then but the risk of a setback of your progress and the chaser effect is lower the longer your streak is.

    Now these are generally useful tips fur us younger guys but acknowledge that we are all different. Find whatever works best for you!
    Educating yourself on yourbrainonporn.com will show you different angles and approaches to rebooting. It's a lot to read. It's worth it though!

    Best of luck!
     
    DBug, Oct 8, 2016
    DBug, Oct 8, 2016
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