I relapsed twice tonight after 74 Days :(

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Wugazi32, Aug 14, 2019.

  1. Wugazi32

    Wugazi32 Fapstronaut

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    I've been in soft mode reboot for 74 Days, haven't Masturbated or watched Porn in that time at all, only sex and handjobs from wife....other night had sex and I've had chaser effect for last few days, I saw some erotic images on Instagram and as I was on my own I had the urge and fired up a web broswer and went at it twice. I feel so ashamed now, got nothing from it...I am definitely over porn for life.

    I think may be I should do hard mode?
     
  2. MuzzyTheArab

    MuzzyTheArab Fapstronaut

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    What do you consider soft mode? No Porn?
     
  3. Wugazi32

    Wugazi32 Fapstronaut

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    No porn or masterbating, only sex with my wife.
     
  4. nyxDrive

    nyxDrive Fapstronaut

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    What do you want to achieve?
     
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  5. TheMightyQuinn

    TheMightyQuinn Fapstronaut

    Ok. Did you follow your boundaries and your partner's boundaries right afterwards? Take the next right action. That's the first step to getting back on track.
     
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  6. Wugazi32

    Wugazi32 Fapstronaut

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    Yes, I phoned her straight away and she was sympathetic...she's got my back of course.

    Total abstinence from porn of any kind, and hopefully masterbation forever. Only to have sex with my wife and to stop being a lustful 'man of the world' that the rise of internet pornography was turning me into.

    Also...to cure the on/off PIED I started to experience, that was in fact the only reason I started NoFap in the beggining .
     
    Last edited: Aug 15, 2019
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  7. Advocate109

    Advocate109 Fapstronaut

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    If you do hard mode, make sure not to neglect your wifes sexual needs
     
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  8. Faceplanter

    Faceplanter Fapstronaut

    Add no Psubs to the list! Instagram come up a lot as an issue. It's great you told your wife right away. May you look back at day 200 and say I only relapsed once.
     
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  9. Wugazi32

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    Had sex last night, and twice on Friday night...hoping this isn't gonna hinder me though, maybe it'll help? A stepping stone to get through 90 days...no chaser effect so far!
     
  10. HealingIsHard

    HealingIsHard Fapstronaut

    I've been wondering about hard mode myself. Because even though marital sex is meant to be something beautiful and pure, our conditioning from porn can often turn it into something less so... but fulfilling your partners needs without sex is also a real concern.
     

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