I relied on porn to be able to settle for a monogamous relationship

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Dleuenbe, Apr 6, 2020.

  1. Dleuenbe

    Dleuenbe New Fapstronaut

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    Hey there fellow Fapstronauts! So I finally decided to take the challenge. No more porn or masturbation. It's actually quite a relief so far (day 3) but I'm hoping my sex life with my longstanding girlfriend will improve in the long-run. I've come to realize that, among other things, I was relying on porn and masturbation to compensate for my frustrations as a "faithful" partner. My girlfriend has expressed interest in seeing other men and developing a polyamorous relationship with me. I've always refused, being terrified of loosing her, but am equally interested in having sexual encounters with other women. Porn has helped me manage this dilemma. So I'm curious to hear from other people who have similar experiences. Could it be that rebooting will give me more confidence and make a polyamorous life-style possible?
     
  2. Welcome dear fapstronaut ;) best of luck on your journey
     
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  3. The Free Bird

    The Free Bird Fapstronaut

    Hi, welcome to the community

    I would recommend you to stay in touch with members and read their success stories. You may also learn tricks to avoid the short-term pleasure and to face the temptations.

    Be AWARE of your habits and control what you see and what/who you spend your time with.

    It's also important to limit the usage of social media. In addition, never be free! Use your free time as much as possible and do sports, exercise, attend classes, etc.


    This video contains everything that you need to know about porn addiction. Lastly, here is a collection of ways to deal with the urges which worked great for me.

    ֍ You got this my friend ֍
     
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  4. Hey welcome to the NoFap forum : )

    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!


    First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:

    Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button / Set up your day counter / Rebooting Resources/ About NoFap/ Support NoFap


    Here is just some advice:


    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)


    Then secondly I just advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.


    Theres a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and give some help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!


    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal/log (in the appropriate section for you) and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.


    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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  5. MuscularSherlockHolmes

    MuscularSherlockHolmes Fapstronaut

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  6. Hi @Dleuenbe, all the best to you! If you want to join 'The Matrix' challenge click here> 'The Matrix'
     

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