how to control this stuff i know this is a natural process which happens with male when seeing attractive women but i just dont like as it turns me on and feel horny
This is why I don't look. Because if I do, I will lust. If I don't look, I won't lust. I don't give myself permission to look at any woman when I'm out and about. I keep them in my peripheral vision and if my eyes inadvertently fall on one, Bounce the Eyes. With conditioning it can be done.
What am I missing out on by choosing not to look?
Feelings of deprivation after getting horny?
Scolding looks from my wife?
Reinforcing my toxic shame?
Heating up the toxicity level of my brain leading me closer to acting out?
Entertaining a pornographic view of women?
No thanks. I can see women better when I don't look at them; a whole lot better.
The easiest look for me to say "No" to is
The First One. If I say ""No" to the first look, there won't be a second, or a third, or a fifth, or an eighth. Do I do this perfectly? No. But if I win more battles than I lose with lust, then I will win this war. If I keep losing battle after battle after battle with lust, then I will lose this war. So I take each look very seriously.
If I don't look, I won't lust.
And if I don't lust, I won't crave.
And if I don't crave, I won't cave.
Game over. I win.