I seriously need help

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by I will stop221, Aug 29, 2018.

  1. I will stop221

    I will stop221 Fapstronaut

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    Ok guys as you already know i need help lots of it be it advices motivation posts anything is appreciated cause i really dont know what to do

    Boring background (it may help you in recommending me something):
    I ve been ttying to stop for over a year now didnt know about NoFap untill 3 months ago or something since i discovered NoFap the highest number of days i could stop my self was 2 weeks
    And i didnt achieve it for more than 2 times
    And since i failed last week after a 1 week reboot i just lost it entirly the highest number of days from last week was 2 days maybe

    Yup so basiclly i am f*cked and i dont know what to do so i am begging for help right now (which is probably normal ???)
    So yea please help me :(
     
  2. Koolage_aid231

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    It's the same with me, I have been trying to quit for 7 months and I keep relapsing. But I believe eventually you will overcome this. You need to be honest with yourself and realize that every time you relapse, you regret it afterwards. It has completely ruined your life, and that's why you want to quit so badly. Use this technique when you have an urge: Remind yourself that the urge is temporary, and if you don't give in, you will be filled with joy. There is a better life out there than being stuck in this addiction, and you will never get to see it if you keep relapsing. Have self respect for yourself. You need to put your heart and soul into this. I believe in you. Don't relapse.
     
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    Thanks for the advice i really appreciate it :)
     
  4. MovingOnFromThePast

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  5. I will stop221

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    Well i really want to stop mastrubation and porn since i am religous and not just that its because i just feel an incridible shift of performance at everything after stoping for a few days but when i am in the front lines i am baseclly screwed put i know i should never quit so yea
     
  6. Finally2018

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    Remember to stop triggers
     
  7. I will stop221

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    That is the proplem can't discover my trigger while that may sound stupid but it just happens i don't know what are my triggers :(
     
  8. MovingOnFromThePast

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    Then you're desire to end your pmo is religion.
    I'll tell you my desire.

    Two years ago, I had to tell the truth. That truth caused my 5 year relationship to end. She eventually left me nine months later. Shame, guilt and regret is what I live with. Never learn a lesson with regret. I cried when I woke up, I cried in the shower, and I cried before I went to sleep. I would cry 5 days out of the week for at least 9 months straight. I do not over exaggerate about me crying alot because it is the sad truth. It felt like someone died. Its been over a year since she left and I still cry but not as often as before. I only went out 5-6 times to socialize out of the whole year. I stayed in my room everyday like it was prison. Dreading about the past, over and over . A nightmare that wouldn't end.


    Suicide was on my mind for months. I just couldn't stop thinking. I couldn't stop replaying every bad moment. Porn and games was the only time where I didn't have to think about anything. Everyday I would play games, watch porn, and cry. I was a living zombie. Two years of true depression is something where I wouldn't want anyone to have.

    I hit a breaking point in my life. I no longer want to dread about the past, in order for me to stop thinking about the past is to stop PMO . I no longer live in a fantasy because in reality, we live in the moment, and what we do in that moment will affect our future. Make a bad decision now better expect another bad decision later. Talk negative to yourself now best believe you'll say it again later.

    You and I and everyone else live this life in this world. There's nothing wrong with the world but we choose to make it a cold world. There'snothing wrong with my computer but I made poor decisions on my computer. Everyday is a new day and literally anything can happen. I might just sin the next day, who knows, but if i do Iwillremember about my shameful past and once I come to my senses (after you pmo) that depression will come quickly. It's so painful that im willing to give up anything to not feel that pain again.


    Someone on NOFAP asked , " what do you desire?"

    My desire is to not feel that shame, regret and guilt. My desire is to not dread about the past that I caused my 5 year relationship to end. That's why I NOFAP.


    Tell me brother, what do you desire?
     
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  9. I will stop221

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    First of all before anything else i would like to make sure you are ok now and have you been doing well cause i really hope you are in a good state

    For me its not just religion its kinda the same as you i really want to avoid that guilt in anyway possible and my perfomance in everything running , focusing , etc... drops alot after pmo
    And well i dont really know what to say and i am not good with words but i hope you well be ok and well soon
    Thanks :)
     
  10. MovingOnFromThePast

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    Haha I am doing good brother. As long as I am on this website, I am better than I was before. I appreciate you. ;)
     
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  11. Finally2018

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    What makes you want to pmo. It is trigger!
    Is it what you see or what you think?
    In what situation urges come?
    Is it internet, facebook, twitter etc.
    Normally you see something that makes you willing to see more. It begins with very mild thoughts but desire gets stronger. I advice to stop using internet as much as possible. Just when necessary, except nofap. Avoid all arousing marerial: including tv programs/ movies as there is lots of teiggers. Think about music videos its actually all about triggers... when you learn to avoid triggers it a eay easier and it is the only way forward. Remember to be smart rather than trying to be strong. As fighting urges is a way harder (even impossible if they get strong enough) than avoiding tempations. Dont let the ”birds” to make nest above your head. thoughts are the black birds
     
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  12. Finally2018

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    Be the Scarecrow for theblack birds!!! Scare the thoughts away. Boooo
     
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  13. I will stop221

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    Lol i will
    Thanks
     
  14. Survivor Wars

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    Dude, I think your desire to stop is not enough. There are people who are actually having serious health problems (life threatening) because of PMO and still cannot shake off this addiction (includes me)

    So I tell you the truth, if you want to quit PMO because of some religious beliefs, then you have like a decade of weekly relapsing to go before you eventually find a solid reason to quit.

    To be honest you don't sound like someone who really wants to fight this off. Seems like your only problem now is the guilt you feel when you do it.

    Until you see PMO destroying your life you may lack the real will or zeal to unplug.

    The question for you now is, are you going to wait till then? If you quit this religion, PMO will come and stay with you strongly.

    So look inside if you and find better reasons. Even if God is the reason, God makes rules because he doesn't want us to ruin ourselves.

    PMO will give you erectile dysfunction.

    If you are a woman, no man will be able to satisfy you. And you won't even desire a man .

    Chronic fatigue will throw your body out of balance and then comes heart issues and hormonal Imbalance etc

    It will affect your brains and you wont be smart again, you will be forgetful, and dumb.

    You will eventually withdraw from society and guess what you will reject your faith and allow PMO to kill you.

    So rise up don't wait till u get to where I'm now.

    Also any relapse is not back to square one. Continue your war immediately from there. In a war battles may be lost but the war won in the long run.

    So rise up and get a grip on life. I'm also still relapsing but each day, I feel myself winning some important battles (e.g. immediately continuing NOFAP after a relapse).
    It important to keep fighting.

    Lastly, confide in someone in your faith. It may help, confide in an experienced adult. Tell him/her your struggles and you may have an ally for this war.
     
  15. I will stop221

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    Well you are right but i would like to say that i already know the dangers that is on of the reasons but anyway thanks for warning me i will try my hardest
     
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  16. Survivor Wars

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    You can send me a message if you want further help from me, we can be allies in our struggle.

    We can continue communicating even on phone or something. If you like.
     
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  17. pa_peace

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    Dude calm down. I have been trying to quit for 8 years. I have been on nofap since 3 years. I have failed hundreds of times. I have had severe depression phases, phases where I have wanted to kill myself, phases where I was a second away from pushing the chair, literally. I don't want to tell you to calm down because I have been there and I know how you feel. The entire fucking world is on fire. Everyone is the enemy. But trust me, trust this community.
     
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  18. rush limbaugh

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    Yeah, I know how you feel. I one time gave in after a five-month streak, which resulted in me going through the worst bout of depression in my life. The sadness and loneliness, for me, always felt the worst after a PMO relapse. I'm four days in now, and I'm still depressed from what I did a few days ago, but I have to keep going, so do you. You can break this addiction, I'm rooting for you.
     
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    I'd be glad
     
  20. I will stop221

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    Me too best of luck to you :)
     

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