I think am suffering from psychologically induced ED

How old were you when this incident occurred?

 

Could be! I suggest keeping with NoFap, maybe do hard mode then see what happens?

I'm not a medical professional, but drop me a private message if ya wanna talk about it. X

 

Lot's of people get anxious about sex for many reasons. A bad first time is tough, and can really make sex seem scary. To avoid this, I would encourage you to:

• Have sex with a partner you've been seeing for a while, so that trust, communication, and comfortability are already norms in your relationship.
• Talk to your partner before sex about your anxiety/fears. Just talking about them lessens their effects, and you two can talk about solutions.
• Try oral and manual stimulation for both you and your partner first. While sex may be scary, if your body is used to pleasure from your partner, transitioning from manual/oral to sex may feel more natural.
• Make sure kissing, cuddling, and other touching actions are normal on your relationship, and cause you to feel less anxious instead of more.
• Focus on your partner and the feelings of mutual enjoyment, not the explicit act of sex. if you view the acts as just you two enjoying yourselves and not sex, you won't be as anxious.

If you are a heavy porn user, then the porn can actually be a direct or indirect cause of your anxiety and fear.

On the indirect side, watching males in porn can warp an individual's mind into having a specific idea of sex. When these expectations aren't met (you don't have an 8 pack, your dick isn't 9 inches, you can't thrust as fast, your partner isn't screaming her lungs out), no matter how unrealistic the expectations may be, your mind freaks out and gets anxious, which can prevent you from having sex or achieving erections. If this were the case, I would just encourage you to have sex with someone you like holistically, and just focus on having a good time with her (don't worry about your erection, or speed, or performance, or whatever). Enjoy the kissing, foreplay, intimacy, skin contact, and penetration if you get hard. The less you think about the sex and just enjoy it, the more enjoyable it will be. Girls of course love getting dicked down, but they also really like it when their partners enjoy their bodies. If you're enjoying your partner and express that to her, she will have a much better experience as well.

Now it is possible that porn has directly affected you with PIED. Read all about it here: Is porn making my social anxiety/confidence/depression/anxiety/OCD/bipolar worse? and here: Are my sexual problems (ED, DE, low libido) related to my porn use? YBOP can explain PIED way better than I can.

To understand all of porn's effects on people, I encourage you to look at YBOP's general concepts here: Evolution has not prepared your brain for today’s porn , and bring all specific questions you have here: Porn FAQs