I wanna talk about Love in High School...

Man, I feel you! When I first started dating with any degree of seriousness...that actually was the chorus going through my head. I can't tell you what love is or how it feels, that's something you get to discover for yourself. Which...is both super exciting and super terrifying. Just go with it!

I can tell you jealousy is not love. I think you've figured this out, too. Jealousy is like a beast that twists around your gut and claws to get out, whereas love is more like feeling your heart is overflowing.

Love at first sight can happen, don't get me wrong, but it is not the norm. Good relationships are built and maintained. Like a house, or a fire. That first catch of passion with no work is not a great long term plan.

This can happen, too. Really, it could be either of these things, or neither, or both!

Some people think the goal of dating is to get sex. Others think it's to get married. Neither of these ideas are complete, because why, then, do married couples with children go on dates? The purpose of dating is to get to know someone, and to get to know yourself in different situations. High school is a really exciting time to do just that - discover new people and what they're like. Go out and date, young Turk! Find your friends, build relationships and get to know people. Some as romantic partners, some as work partners, some as friend partners, some as mentors. If you enter into your high school with kindness and the intention of getting to know people and yourself, you will go far.

 

If you date with goal sex than its probably a ONS. But tell me why a married couple would go on a date? Unless a date is a social thing, its pretty weird to do if you are married. Some would see it as cheating.

 

Your perspective on love is going to shift allot as you go through life. Most of the time you yourself are going to shift right along with it, they say by your 35th birthday your personality / belief system is pretty solid by that point and you are going to be the same person from then on for the remainder of your life.

This is important because during that time from now until then, you are going to change as a person dramatically and what more, whoever you are with is going to change right along with you. So it's important to know you may end up falling in love with someone at one point and you'll both change as you both get older.

I'm 37 and can say emphatically state I've been infatuated 2 times and only in real love once. The problem with love though is you really don't know it completely until it's gone.

So Love is pain willfully ignored until its lost.

 

You've never seen a husband take his wife somewhere nice? Or a couple go out for dinner?

 

If you need a girlfriend to be happy, you’ll be sorely disappointed when you get a girlfriend and still aren’t happy.

Work on yourself first. Worse case scenario, you’re in exactly the same position you are now but better off because you have a healthier view of yourself and aren’t as desperate.