I want change but my will power won't let it happen

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Aloser01

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Hi I am a porn addict and a masturbator who always think of mastrubation and porn and masturbates on daily basis or sometimes twice a day too and my age is just 16 but I wanna say this that I really wanna change myself I wanna be a good man. I want to be a non addict person and the worst thing is u can't handle the urge .But I always fail to I have tried to quit all of this like a million times but I come back to it again and again i don't know why but my will power is too less to overcome my addiction I can't be over it at all. My mental health is getting worse day by day. I have became a person who isn't interested in anything who doesn't knows how to talk to people like I have became a loner person who is shy all the time. I can't even look in the eyes of someone. And I have became a very violent person. But I have tried every possible way I can to change myself but idk how but I always fail can anyone lend me a hand to succeed?
 
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You have taken the first step, so quickly pat yourself on the back. Congrats. I cannot tell you how to overcome your addiction, it's a very personal journey and one you must figure out for yourself, but I can give some tips:
  • Exercise, both mental and physical. You probably have some sort of anxiety because of the addiction, so something like meditation can help. It helped me. Honestly, anything that allows you to overcome your demons is great. Being physically active is key since all that energy you're going to build up by abstaining needs to go somewhere.
  • Discipline. If you try to brute force your way out of this, you won't succeed. Take a step back and ask yourself: why are you addicted? Why and how do you relapse? What can you do to fix those things? In my case, I had a big problem with being needy and lonely. I didn't feel satisfied being by myself, not pursuing anyone. I turned to porn when I didn't get the girls I wanted. I fixed that problem by finding new hobbies and getting goals that are exclusive to me as a person.
  • Determination. Your brain will do all kinds of crazy mental gymnastics to convince you that "porn isn't so bad". "It will be just this once". "I deserve this after x days of abstaining". You can't give in to these irrational thoughts. You need to know exactly why you want to quit and you must remind yourself of that reason everyday. I stopped because the porn industry is evil and it ruined some of my first sexual experiences.
I hope this will help. Good luck, I believe in you!
 
Khabastos has some good advice. Man I am 41, if I could go back and speak to my 16 year old self and could tell him only one thing, I would tell him to practice the art of self-discipline. Nevermind what is culturally accepted by your peers. Get some convictions and live by them no matter what. Dont wait till your mid life and have to undo a bunch of bad habits. You got plenty of time to right the ship but dont wait. Time is gone before you know it. Khabastos eluded to the fact that we ultimately are responsible for developing ourselves. He gave You some good suggestions too. Start replacing the addictive behaviors with positive ones that will build character and health. Make personal development your lifestyle. If you fall, get back up and keep fighting. We all have failed at some point. We just cant have our failure move us to quit. You got this. Start today.
 
Aloser01 said:
Hi I am a porn addict and a masturbator who always think of mastrubation and porn and masturbates on daily basis or sometimes twice a day too and my age is just 16 but I wanna say this that I really wanna change myself I wanna be a good man. I want to be a non addict person and the worst thing is u can't handle the urge .But I always fail to I have tried to quit all of this like a million times but I come back to it again and again i don't know why but my will power is too less to overcome my addiction I can't be over it at all. My mental health is getting worse day by day. I have became a person who isn't interested in anything who doesn't knows how to talk to people like I have became a loner person who is shy all the time. I can't even look in the eyes of someone. And I have became a very violent person. But I have tried every possible way I can to change myself but idk how but I always fail can anyone lend me a hand to succeed?
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As long as people continue to masturbate and have sex, porn will be with us for the rest of our lives. Unless the government does an authoritarian crackdown on the adult entertainment industry (Which I promise you, will not happen). Remember Porn isn’t love, it’s rape and sexual assault. If your having trouble, find content blockers like porn blocking software or an image blocker app for your smartphone and computer. If you need to see some images and videos, do it outside or something. If the addiction is just that bad. Train your self discipline and think positive. Stay away from isolation and secrecy, that’s where addiction thrives.
 
You will be free, believe in yourself. We are here for you.
 
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