I WANT MY LIFE BACK!!!

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  1. Dinta

    Dinta Fapstronaut

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    I am Dinta, have been addicted to porn for seven years now.
    Those have been seven years of decline, because the were years I could have put to better use. It started gradually at first and I didn't really pay much attention to the habit as it was occasional at the time. But things got worse in 2016, I was transfered to a location I didn't like. Depression came swiftly as I was lonely without friends there, I turned to porn for soothing/calm. My porn consumption escalated and since then had gone from bad to worse. It ruined my relationships, my productivity was low, my social relationships almost disappeared, I was unhappy almost all the time because I knew that this habit was indeed ruining me and I couldn't help myself.
    I tried to quit several times, but I usually relapsed after about two weeks to a month lying to myself that if I could hold it that long I could quit it anytime I wanted, why then deny myself all that pleasure. But the truth was I couldn't help myself and I couldn't talk to anybody about it. I was slowly sinking.

    I came across Nofap through a YouTube video about the ills of pornography and decided to check it out and I am happy I did. I have read through some discussions and I am thrilled as to the progress people have made here.
    Truly healing comes from facing our fears and by been honest with ourself. I had made the decision to quit porn before I stumbled on Nofap which was why I sought directions on YouTube. But surely the community here will help me in my decision to permanently quit the habit this time, as I find myself amongst people with one goal, who have either conquered already or going to conquer the bad habit.

    I WANT MY LIFE BACK!!!! I have Nofap 1day and it's been good.
     
  2. DrabToLight

    DrabToLight Fapstronaut

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    Welcome to NoFap!

    I am a regular user here and nobody special.

    In some ways, there are three communities here.

    The forum posts
    The profile posts
    Private messages
    You've already found the forum posts.

    To find the profile posts click the Members link in the black bar. This will bring up a new blue bar below and one of the choices will be New Profile Posts. You can like, comment or ignore them as they fit your program of recovery.

    If you find a person you want to communicate with, you can send a private message to them. Sometimes they do not respond. Don't let that worry you, keep looking. The members and the literature are the community on here.

    Again, welcome.
     

  3. Welcome to NoFap @Dinta
    It is a big step if you can understand what is triggering your urges, because this will allow you to be awake and kill those urges as soon as they appear.

    I recommend you to create your own "Emergency Toolbox" with readings that can be handy to read when you start feeling urges to screw up.
    I can share this post with you with my own Emergency Toolbox, it helped me a lot during the first few months, i had them in my cell and read them every time I started falling down:

    https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...out-of-the-autopilot-when-i-get-urges.264231/
    I wrote some tips in this post that perhaps will help you too:

    http://NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/tips-that-helped-me-to-start-my-reboot.46617/#post-330318
    You can watch some interesting videos which are also very helpful in this post:
    http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?th...t-help-me-a-lot-during-my-reboot.39774/page-2

    I also suggest you to read "Breaking the Cycle" by George Collins, it is a must-read if you are serious about getting rid of this addiction.
    To get more focus and feel happier with life I recommend you to start doing meditation.. I have been using an App called Headspace for the last two months which is great if you have never meditated before. The first 10 sessions are free if you want to give a try. I used to feel a bit depressed or feeling without energy to start new projects in my life, and meditation has helped me a lot with this.

    Last but not least, I would strongly recommend you to take new e-course that Mark Queppet launched in his new website, called: " REFORGED MAN: Quit porn and Master Yourself-Be a Man you Admire", it is the updated version of the e-course he used to have in NoFap Academy. It is not cheap ($200) but it is totally worth it because he gives great toold to fight PMO.You can find it here:
    https://courses.universalman.com/courses/reforged-man
    You can also join his website called Patreon, where he posts great stuff for free every week, and also you can join the pay area to be part of his weekly video calls where you can chat with them in real life, get coaching and listen to other guys's stories and problems too. You can find it here:
    https://www.patreon.com/home
    You can also use this Excel table to track your reboot. If you did not watch P or MO'd you leave it in 0 and it will show gree, if you did it you fill in in the column (PMO or MO) with the amount of times, if it was 1 it will show in yellow, 2 or more in red. In the left column you can add how strong the urges were each day.
    https://www.dropbox.com/s/uvwg7ot0h69dcyu/Counter template.xlsx?dl=0




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    I hope that all this helps you to fight this shitty addiction.
    Let's keep on fighting

    Fercho
     

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