I want to have a Reebot. how can I do this perfectly

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Apexkid, May 14, 2017.

  1. Apexkid

    Apexkid Fapstronaut

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    So I'm new here and I'm going to tell my story and I hope I will be able to get a solution on here.

    OK so I'm currently 16 and I'm going to be 17 by October I'm still a virgin but I have had a chance to have sex once, but I was unable to penetrate My partner Because of some other issues called performance anxiety and I tried with some [email protected] tablets 2to3 but still I was unable to get it inside and I gave up, and started Pmo, I have been doing pmo for almost a year now, but it's wasn't as serious as the last 3months when I pmo once everyday, so recently I had a new girlfriend and we have been dating and stuffs for about 2monthz now, and still I wasn't really feeling sexually attracted towards her as I was okay with my PMO abit, and now
    Our relationship has gotten to a stage were we needed sex, and I have abstained from pMo for 2days just to fight my anxiety and stuffs until we were about to perform the act and I would only get the erection but I can't hold it for too long. I concluded maybe something was wrong so we decided the second day and I had to give her some excuses, we tried the second day but I still wasn't able to get it up atall, I made a research and discover I was suffering from pied and I decided I was going to abstain from pMo in other to have a Reeboot and be able to have sex,

    I have told her about the pied issues and she has vowed to help me in the Reeboting process. This is my day4 of no pmo and everything feels good with no urge of relapse as I'm dying to have my first ever sex. Now we still do some cuddling and stuffs, hope this would not affect my rebooting, and what can she do to help the rebooting has she really wants us to have sex and me too. I'm totally confused what can I do. Feel free to ask me anything please
     
  2. sparkywantsnoPMO

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    If you're looking to do hard mode, then "cuddling and stuffs" will affect it. Essentially, anytime you are getting aroused, you will be sending mixed signals to the brain. This doesn't mean you can't be intimate with her, it'll likely just take longer to reboot.

    It can take months for things to normalize. Don't be afraid when, for instance, at 1 month now you can't get an erection at all. It will pass. If you are still going to be intimate with your girlfriend, then just focus on doing things to "take care of her." Be advised even just doing those things will still cause arousal in you and can delay the reboot.
     
  3. Crimson

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    Think perfectly is the wrong word no reboot is perfect man it is a struggle it's not a straight forward line it's up and downs

    The best thing I can advise you to do is do 90 days hard mode(minimum) you should see some improvements with your problems also at this point try and be intermate with her in other ways like it's not all about sex my friend there are other ways to please a women and in my opinion having that connection will make he whole thing easier

    But it's down to each individual so your reboot may need different parameters then mine do what you think is best just don't pmo don't even peak don't edge and your be well on your way :)
     
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  4. Steve Sancteria

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    as Crimson said, there is no perfect way to solve your problem.
    You will have to give your brain as much room to recorver as possible, on the other hand, your girlfriend has her desires as well so you´ll have to find a conclusion with her together.

    Cause I don´t think she´ll be fine waiting months without intimacy but if she wants to help you with the problem, you are one lucky dude cause girls in your age are really unpatient ^^
     
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  5. Apexkid

    Apexkid Fapstronaut

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    Thanks everyone for your honest reply. If I am going to do hard-mode then how many days should be my minimum target in order for my brain to actually heal?
     
  6. Crimson

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    So I'd say start with the 90 days as a minimum target but respectively it could be more like 6-9 months for a full reboot
     
  7. The best advice I can give is that perfectionism is a recipe for relapse. I think in the beginning the first lesson you have to learn is to not get discouraged when you fall. Mastering that is the key to mastering a life free of falls.
     
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