i want to know what my nofap goal should be...

[silex_jedi]

my question right now is "what are my motivations to do nofap ???"

i know i don't want porn (because it makes me feel disconnected from the real world).

as far as masturbation is concerned, i don't know. the last times i had an urge to masturbate i did not care, and just went with my feelings and did it anyways, i had no reasons not to give in. it did not feel wrong or right. my only concern is when it leads to porn. that's where it's problematic. that's the only reason i should not masturbate : "it might lead me to porn" (and then to my porn induced problems like sexualising girls, being disappointed by myself, feeling intrusive, irresponsibility, weak willpower, and so on).
and the fact it might lead to porn is not enough compared to the pleasure i get from fapping. i don't know...

what do you think ? can you, who is reading this, help me sort it out ?

thank you very much !

PS i discovered porn when i was between 11 and 12 years old , and have had interruptions (nofap because no other way for me, i would say) for scouting camps at least one week, each summer between 2011 and 2017 and maybe in late 2017 when i handled my life OK.

 

[Quezatolah]

my question right now is "what are my motivations to do nofap ???"

i know i don't want porn (because it makes me feel disconnected from the real world).

as far as masturbation is concerned, i don't know. the last times i had an urge to masturbate i did not care, and just went with my feelings and did it anyways, i had no reasons not to give in. it did not feel wrong or right. my only concern is when it leads to porn. that's where it's problematic. that's the only reason i should not masturbate : "it might lead me to porn" (and then to my porn induced problems like sexualising girls, being disappointed by myself, feeling intrusive, irresponsibility, weak willpower, and so on).
and the fact it might lead to porn is not enough compared to the pleasure i get from fapping. i don't know...

what do you think ? can you, who is reading this, help me sort it out ?

thank you very much !

PS i discovered porn when i was between 11 and 12 years old , and have had interruptions (nofap because no other way for me, i would say) for scouting camps at least one week, each summer between 2011 and 2017 and maybe in late 2017 when i handled my life OK.

A real man controls his emotions and isn't controlled by them, I want to be the best version of myself, and I want to be free while living a moral life.

Emotions have no morals so anyone's morals only extend to the point they are in control of their emotions.

Also masturbation leads to porn eventually so that's reason enough to quit.

 

[Rostrock47]

A real man controls his emotions and isn't controlled by them, I want to be the best version of myself, and I want to be free while living a moral life.

Emotions have no morals so anyone's morals only extend to the point they are in control of their emotions.

Also masturbation leads to porn eventually so that's reason enough to quit.

On point

 

[silex_jedi]

A real man controls his emotions and isn't controlled by them

as a person that spends all my time by "controlling" my emotions i'll have to disagree... i have to disagree because there is always a moment where my emotions come back stronger...

we need emotions, they are how our bodies communicate with us... and we need to give credit to women who understand them better and use them as their primary mode, as opposed to men who use the more "cold rationality"

to cut a long story short, what do you mean by "controlling emotions" ?

 

[HelperX]

as a person that spends all my time by "controlling" my emotions i'll have to disagree... i have to disagree because there is always a moment where my emotions come back stronger...

we need emotions, they are how our bodies communicate with us... and we need to give credit to women who understand them better and use them as their primary mode, as opposed to men who use the more "cold rationality"

to cut a long story short, what do you mean by "controlling emotions" ?

I believe he means shouting like crazy, not controlling his anger, behaving recklessly, giving in to urges. A real man knows how to control his emotions and doesn't act like that.

 

[silex_jedi]

I believe he means shouting like crazy, not controlling his anger, behaving recklessly, giving in to urges. A real man knows how to control his emotions and doesn't act like that.

thank you... controling is a bit strong... i would say "manage" rather than "control"... but at this point, i think some of the question have been answered. this are just linguistic details.

thank you very much once again !

i promise i'll keep on "normal mode".