I want to stop, but how? This is draining me so bad...

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Dack Gun, May 22, 2021.

  1. Dack Gun

    Dack Gun Fapstronaut

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    Hey there, I just relapsed this morning when I woke up horny, again. Maybe some of you guys can relate to it... That impulsive doing gave me no time to even think twice. I feel like I have no control over my mind, over my body.

    I really don't know what drives me to do it. I did not use porn to masturbate in most times, but still, I would have wild fantasies. Though I keep on telling myself that those illusions aren't real, but I still couldn't escape from it. I addict to it. And this drains me a lot. It's sabotaging to some point that I can't think clearly. I lose focus and motivation through out the day.

    I tried to workout on the other day, but idk why this made me even wanna masturbate. I just don't know what to do to stop me from fapping whenever those urges come. Pls help... I'd likely to like to hear your stories and experience as well :)
     
  2. Willpower alone can not sustain sobriety in the long term. In the short term willpower is incredibly important but deeper changes need to take hold. What guided me in my battles against addiction was a two step process.

    First I had absolutely hated what I had turned into and how I was living my life. I mean I absolutely detested it with every fiber of my being. You might think you hate what you've become but if addiction still has a hold on you then you aren't there yet. Most likely you are in a weird limbo where I had found myself for many years: I hated the negative effects of my addiction but I didn't want to stop my addiction. So you need to get to a point where you tell yourself "I absolutely refuse to live like this any longer" and mean it wholeheartedly.

    The second part was aligning my actions in life with my values and goals. I wrote down my short, mid, and long term goals in life along with my ONE THING that I must accomplish above all else. As I was living my day to day life I was doing a constant inventory of absolutely everything. Anything I identified in my life as being negative I made a corrective action plan to eliminate it entirely. That meant ending toxic relationships, quitting destructive habits, and embracing gratitude instead of bitterness. It didn't happen overnight but I've finally reached a point where the things I say and do match exactly who I am on the inside.

    Engaging in masturbation, watching pornography, procuring the services of a prostitute, visiting strip clubs and things of that ilk are things I consider to be loser behavior for loser males. Consequently these things will never have a place in my life ever again. This mindset is what keeps me on the straight and narrow path when urges inevitably arise (like this morning).
     
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  3. Qriminal

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    You have to mentally change to quit PMO, you either need to have extreme willpower or hate PMO there are more ways to combat PMO but these are very effective.
     
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  4. Dack Gun

    Dack Gun Fapstronaut

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    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, I've gained a lot insights from you my friend. I will try to keep working on my goals :)
     
  5. Dack Gun

    Dack Gun Fapstronaut

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    Thank you, but how do I mentally change to quit PMO though?
     

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