I watched a movie and tried to avoid getting horny.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Pathofsuccess_1, Jan 12, 2020.

  1. Pathofsuccess_1

    Pathofsuccess_1 Fapstronaut

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    Does this count as a relapse? I remember on my first long streak I would watch movies all the time and not get horny, and if I did, I would just not focus on it and move on with my life. I feel like my sensitivity may have made me horny, but did I just relapse?

    I REALLY wanted to watch the movie inception so bad and not for any horny reason whatsoever. I was about to skip it since I get horny from faces, but in my head I figured (what am I going to do, just avoid movies for the rest of my life?) I’ve been avoiding all tv/movies/YouTube but there is no nudity in this movie just girls faces, I kind of got aroused and I almost got a boner from seeing this girls face and I was just trying to watch the movie.

    I did not act on it or anything but I almost did. I really hope I did not reset. I didn’t see anything but the girls face but I did get really horny (maybe because I was worried about it and consciously thinking about it)

    I knew it would have to happen eventually though. I don’t think the purpose of nofap is to avoid all tv and movies for the rest of your life and throw you tv away.

    I did almost get a boner but I stopped thinking about it so much (also another reason why I think it was just the thought of knowing a girl was there).

    I’m kinda worried. I felt like I would give in and relapse. Please give me some insight. Advice needed. Thanks.
     
  2. Denver-guy123

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    First of all, I don't think that constitutes anything near a reset. If sexual arousal itself counted as a reset, no one would ever succeed. Its just not how we are built as human beings. We are drawn to attractive partners at a biological level. You getting turned on and almost having an erection is not a relapse. Once we are aroused, we then have more conscious control over whether to feed that urge or distract ourselves and move away from that arousal. But the arousal itself is largely beyond our control.

    In truth, I find myself jealous of the fact that you are aroused simply by faces. In some ways, that's really wonderful! I have used pornography for so long that there seems to be little that arouses me except watching porn videos. So the fact that you can be aroused by an attractive face is great. What you do with that arousal may be the challenge.

    So in short - arousal does not mean reset. You will undoubtedly find yourself aroused many times - even if you threw away your TV set and never watched another movie, there are many arousal triggers in the world, from attractive people walking down the street, to billboards and ads, to dreams that your unconscious draws up for you. It is what we do with the arousal that matters.
     
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  3. Pathofsuccess_1

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    I appreciate the reply! I’ll remember this advice for next time.

    Stupidly though, I ended up edging for about 2 hours to the period of blue balls (painful).

    I don’t want to release all of the way and Orgasm even though I’ve heard edging is worse than full on pmo because I still feel kinda ok (not as if I didn’t edge) but I feel about 85% ok.

    I guess my next question is continuing forward is, should I relapse all of the way even though I don’t feel nearly as bad as I would if I pmo’d all the way?
    I did intense PM, but no O. I feel like orgasming is the worst part for me personally, seeing how I don’t feel that bad compared to what I would usually feel doing it and doing it all.

    If you know how to answer pls let me know, thanks.
     
  4. CodeTalker

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    Then that would be a relapse for me.

    Edging is worst that O. But now that it’s not over, don’t start again.
     
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  5. Pathofsuccess_1

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    Thanks,

    Yes. Undoubtedly a relapse.

    I just feel like I would be way worse off full on PMOing. But I’m going to not.
     
  6. Denver-guy123

    Denver-guy123 Fapstronaut

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    I agree with Code - I don't think you should "fully relapse" just like I wouldn't recommend an alcoholic who slips should go on a "full bender". Stopping yourself at any stage reinforces your ability to discontinue a behavior. Glad you are reaching out!
     

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