I went to a hooker and couldn't get hard at all

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Jorics, Dec 25, 2018.

  1. Jorics

    Jorics Fapstronaut

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    (sorry for bad english)

    I just want to share this story that happened to me last night, hope you can give me advice or share similar stories.

    i'm 22 year old male, i was a virgin, i'm pretty shy and intoverted. I am also strugglin to quit porn and masturbation, i strarted watching porn when i was 14 years old, i discovered NoFap in 2016 i was doing it with pretty decent streaks but always keeps relapse to PMO.

    My friends know that i was a virgin and convince me to pay a hooker, they even give me money and went with me to the site. Prostitution is legal here and is no that expensive. I choose a girl that look pretty hot and we went to a room. We had a small talk, she put the condom on me and started to sucking my dick.
    At the start i was very nervous but horny af at the same time and she was doing an excellent job. My dick was hard as diamond, but then out of nowhere i started to lose my erection, i didn't had a orgasm, my dick just get flacid. She noticed it and ask me "what happen? is every ok?. I told she that every is ok and just keep doing it, but it was a lie, my dick was dead, i even lost my libido. I managed to get semi hard again and tried to bang her in doggy style but my dick failed again and didn't respond. I can notice the frustration in her face at this point, this made me feel awkward and the shame kicks in. She tried everything: fapping, sucking, dirty talk, etc. but did not works my dick was dead af.

    We just finished 20 minutes early, i put my clothes on and just get out of the room fast. These were some of the most akward moments in my life, now i think that if i fuck a girl my dick will not respond. I dont know what happened. I was very horny at the start but it only last like 3 minutes, like i said before i didnt had a orgasm, i even felt sleepy at some point . I never experienced that before when fapping.

    What do you think? i know that fapping and porn can cause ED, but i have morning woods almost every day so....
     
  2. hank moody

    hank moody Fapstronaut

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    Hi friend.

    It can happen when you are really nervous. Since you are virgin and she was a professional, you should let it clear it was your first time. As a professional she would handle the situation.

    I have a friend that has this kind of problem too but with her girlfriend. In his case, it was due to food. I mean, since I know him he only eat rice, beans, french fries and a steak, he also does not drink anything besides Coca Cola, neither water. That all he ate all his life, never eat vegetables. As consequence, he does not have energy for any sport and sex... It's improving by changing food, but as he doesn't change too much it is getting better really slowly.
     
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  3. Take time and work slowly with this. If it makes you feel any better, this has happened to me over 10 times and the number of £££ wasted is ridiculous!

    Your mind is used to linking sex and porn. You are used to watching 3,4,5+ girls in one session. Your brain may be searching for some novelty. What I mean by this is, once one girl is turning you on, your dopamine release is quite high. Once it starts to drop even a little, your brain will start searching for a new high of dopamine that it is used to receiving from porn sessions. Your brain is kind of asking you "where is the next girl?".

    It will take time to re-condition yourself. Especially if you are nervous of the situation to begin with. If you insist on visiting escorts some more, you should ask for intercourse a lot earlier in the exchange. Remember this is your money and you have a say in this.

    Best course of action is to find a sympathetic girlfriend who is willing to work through this with you. Good luck!
     
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  4. Merlio

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    I had the same thing whith a prostitute.
    Wasted 50 euro basicly but a good lesson learned, and even more reason to stop PMO!
     

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