I Wish I Had More Hobbies, but Nothing Grabs Me

Yeah had the same "problem" myself. When I deleted all the porn from my hard drive, a friend asked me: "What do you do with all the free space?". I said "Fuck the free space. What do I do with all the free time?"

I also took a look at some lists, but its really hard to find something new you can do on a daily basis and really is fun.

Maybe we can find something together.

 

I have the same problem.
One thing I recommend is actually doing some of the activities on the list.
For example, you may think drawing sounds boring, but when you actually test it, you find you really enjoy it.

 

This is just a guess but do you spend lots of time on social media, YouTube, Tv, video games? I’ll put it this way. Just like porn all those things I just said releases lots of dopamine and keep in mind we live in a time where we always have to be entertained and the entertainment is so good that anything else like playing sports, writing, reading, hunting, shooting, hiking etc is just so darn boring compared to it if we are perfectly honest. Most people don’t really have many hobbies they would rather sit at home and be entertained. I personally am addicted to YouTube and I actually get huge withdrawals from it. If you truly want to enjoy life to the fullest you’ll have to let all that entertainment go or atleast cut it down.

 

Alright, this is just a thought. I've found that some hobbies are only enjoyable if you're learning how to do it from a good teacher. For instance, I didn't think I could "do" art until I was in art therapy and asked the teacher to walk me through step by step how to draw with chalk. When I was done, I was pretty impressed with myself lol. Same goes for music. "Teaching yourself" can be quite boring but learning from a good teacher and watching yourself incrementally improve over time can be very rewarding.

 

me too, started several activity as Tennis and fitness...
good feedback for dopamine, but clearly nothing as porn can give us immediate and easy pleasure

the sad thing is that years ago before to start such porn shit , I was involved in so many project and crazy idea

 

Yeah fitness/sports is always good. I do daily fitness (just some normal body weight training) for one hour a day for like 3 years. I did that even during my addiction. But the problem is that besides that I really need a hobby to sink into (like into porn before). Not in an addictive way. I mean doing sports/fitness is great but I can't do fitness for 4 hours; just wouldn't be healthy. I think you need some hobby to relax, too.

I also started PC Gaming again because it's really another hobby I have since I'm young. And contrary to porn I can control this; or I don't even see the need to play for hours. But thats the point. I don't wanna just play PC or do any other hobby, so I don't start porn again. Because (to me) it seems a bit weird to say e.g. "Okay I played the guitar for 5 hours now, it actually wasn't fun. But at least I didn't watch porn." In the long term this wouldn't work for me.

But at first I think it's just important to no overwhelm myself with hobbys. So I really will take my time to find something that fits my needs.

What ideas for hobbys do you guys have? maybe we can make a list and inspire each other?

 

I agree with you. Could be symptoms of depression. But I for example have the same feeling like Superman is telling. Just without porn atm something is missing in my life. But I don't feel sad, lethargic or joyless. For me it's just hard to fill the time gap porn filled before. And that I think just takes some time. (But this is just how I feel; i don't say Superman feels the same way)

 

I have tried Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and I found it a great hobby. Challenging at first but is worth a try. I am in my 8th month now and things are starting to click now.

Whatever you do, keep trying new things. You will eventually find what expresses yourself better

Nick

 

Go to your local library. Go to the non-fiction section. Start wandering the aisles. Pick out 5 books - don't overthink it, just let yourself be impulsive. Bring them home and casually check them out, look at it as merely an experiment, a mental adventure. See if anything piques your interest. If it does, jot it down in a notebook for future reference. Do this a few times over the coming months. After a while, look back at your notebook, see if there are any common threads.

For instance, do you tend to get curious about science books like astronomy or biology? Or maybe history? Or travel essays? Or mountain climbing? Or arts & crafts? It could be anything, or several things. Now, once you have a seed of an area that might be interesting, go explore it further, with books, but also movies/documentaries, classes, talking with friends, whatever, but also, if possible, out in the field. See where it leads you. Don't demand that you get an answer theoretically in your mind before you actually do something, get out there and see where the path leads. Be open to it. Be observant with how you're reacting to something. If it's boring, screw it, move on. But if it feels interesting, hmm, notice that, put it in your notebook, follow where it leads you.

For instance, maybe you find an interesting book about rocks/geology, that leads you to take a hike nearby, you notice a cool formation, take a picture of it, and you discover a passion for landscape photography you didn't know you even had. A hobby worth getting involved with does take some effort, but it shouldn't feel like work most of the time, it should feel like something you're naturally drawn to, something which resonates within you while you're doing it. One clue you're on the right track is that time tends to flow faster when you're involved in something you care about, i.e. you may look up suddenly and say to yourself Wow did an hour just go by?

For now your hobby is simply the quest to find a hobby, that is enough. Have fun, open your mind and heart to possibilities, and enjoy the gift of self-discovery which is one of the great experiences we can have in life.