Idealizing fap ?

Thinking that those girls could give you the fap of your life shows that you're not free from porn. Keep fighting!

 

U might have a good cum. But remeber the emptyness will come again. and the lie will come back to the light. and get u in the claws. try to see the lie behind it

 

You are completely right. emptyness is the word, that how I felt after watching porn... Remember that it is like any drugs: full of promise at first glance, but at the end it's a pure lie.

 

Try affirming to yourself that you want your girl, as she's real and you need her more than porn. Think of everything she does that makes your life easier and fun. Then think of how porn acts like a ball and chain while you and your girl are in the race of life where you really actually want to stay together for the journey.

All that is very corny, but it's very subjective. So it might help.

 

This is like reading the reverse from some alternate reality. A lot of guys myself included used to fap because we could not get a GF. But fapping when you already have a GF is alien to me. What’s the point of having a GF if you are just going to fapp off alone in your bedroom?

If you get more enjoyment from fapping then I would argue that you don’t need a GF and she would be better off with another guy no offence. You have this beautiful girl and you are choosing porn over being with her I don’t get it.

 

you should do 90 days.

 

There is a reason why we call it "PMO addiction": our conscious minds are aware of how PMO can affect our lives in a bad way, but our subconscious minds don't care about long term benefits and look for immediate physical pleasure. Precisely, our addiction is to "dopamine", a substance that is released whenever you fap/have sex. In other words, if you have intercourses with your girlfriend I think it will take more time to lose the addiction completely. However this mustn't discourage you. Someday the addiction will be gone, you will feel better with your girlfriend and she will be happier. You love her, not some random girls you don't even know. Do it for her.

These thoughts are produced by the addicted part of your mind and naturally you don't know if you should listen to it or not because, well, it's your mind. It is true that you have an addiction, though, so you must not listen to it. I know it is hard, I have the same problem: during the first months I have no issues and then, when I have almost reached my achievement, urge ambushes ruin everything. Read this, it will help you: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2umfts/a_guide_how_to_quit_pmo/
One last thing: remember you don't see benefits while abstaining because they're coming gradually and slowly, but you will feel really low if you relapse.

 

You're welcome. Maybe you should tell your girlfriend that you're doing this for her and that the mask of no-care hurts you. At the same time, you should stay away from PMO because it's good for both you and your girlfriend. Forget about the 2D girls, always remember who's the girl you really love. Stay strong.

 

I see... Do what you think it is better for her, don't make her sad, as you said. When you get urges, remember that she actually cares about you. Keep going!

 

B

Bro I feel your pain,
I have tried to abstain but to no avail,
But this time it's different this time it's final, it's a new me, reborn from the ashes of the pathetic lazy ass kid. B