Identifying the difference between problematic behaviour and kink / preferences

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by theLowlandPrince, Aug 19, 2020.

  1. That's the WHO, not the APA, whose leader is a known war criminal. This really just gets better and better. And if it's not a mental disorder, then what is it? A choice? Because you only possess a thing by inheritance or acquisition- one is given to you- the other you make the decision to possess. So either gender exists and it's inherited or acquired, or it doesn't exist and we're all crazy! But I'm not going to get into this, because it makes zero sense to me and I'm not interested in hearing diatribes about why one's personal feelings hold more merit than mathematical facts or pseudoscience metaphysical nonsense about "the universe."
    But anyway... with all due respect, I don't care about transgenderism, really, so let's just slip that file back into the folder labelled "None of My Business."
    What I would like to ponder, to which you keep deflecting- is why you choose to ignore everything else I write, though. I guess you just can't help it. I mean, you did start this thread to talk about you- right? Masked with the mirage that you're just "looking out for others" you really just wanted some affirmation for yourself. And that's okay. Everyone needs a little pep talk, right? So you can drop the act. Nobody's judging you. Thousands of dudes sign on here every day to talk about themselves (including myself!), you're really not different. Except for the whole "Champion of the oppressed" act, which- to be frank- is annoying, especially when you're so oblivious. Let's stop talking about other people who you clearly don't care that much about- and talk about you.
    And also, there's absolutely nothing unkind about what I said previously- stating that someone who has a sexual compulsion towards transgenders likely has deeper issues going on... Isn't that what you would call... a fetish? But wait- I forgot you're here to defend that... here... on nofap... a forum for recovering addicts with sexual compulsions they feel is causing them mental harm...
     
  2. theLowlandPrince

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    I like the way you ignore that the APA, your sole source of transgenderism being a mental illness, doesn't rank transgenderism as a mental illness.

    You're banging on about it for someone who doesn't care.

    Because you're incoherent.

    I am looking out for others. I don't know why you angrily assume self-interest; Is it guilt because you lack compassion?

    If any transgender person considered me in any way a champion of their rights and speaking up for them, I'd be truly honoured. However it's not a badge I bestow myself, seeing as I believe that standing up for the vulnerable is basic trait of decency.

    This will be the last message I make in this thread, because it's gone on too long, sucked into your self-absorption.

    Tatty-bye.
     
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    It got pretty deep in here and I’m going to admit I didn’t read most of it. But I have been pondering this whole thing for a while.

    I have come to the conclusion that I at minimum have some bi-curiosities. I am also a sex addict. I haven’t viewed porn in however long my counter says and this is cold turkey.

    Lately I have had difficulty separating what is porn-induced and what is me. I have also been asking myself whether or not I care.

    I have brought my wife up to speed with my ‘orientation’ and the self-loathing after orgasm has stopped. She loves me for who I am so why shouldn’t I?
     
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    This is great. Happy to see that you're asking yourself big questions and answering honestly. I think a bit part of it is that it's Ok not to know. It can be unsettling at times to have to accept that you don't know now, bit will work towards knowing in the future. There is also great unburdening in honesty and acceptance.
     
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    I did have a huge hangup in not being able to label how I felt. Drove me crazy for a few weeks. It really doesn’t matter.

    My wife loves the fact that I have figured out what I have and that I have been open with her. We have toyed with the idea of experimenting in the future. It is exciting thinking about that possibility but we aren’t there yet.
     
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    Good idea. Open / poly ) other people etc in a relationship can be great fun, takes a lot of work, honesty and communication.
     

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