Please ask for help if you need any. Plenty of experienced members here. This journey is easier if u have the right support.
Gonna be straight up here; how does one increase their self esteem? And does an increase in self-esteem lead to being more sociable?
Identify your insecurities. Tackle the root of those insecurities on a daily basis. Read literature that reminds you how special it is to have a precious human life and that you are worthy, no matter how other people receive you.
This is the most important question. Self-esteem is the blueprint that dictates all our actions & interactions. To have a healthy self-esteem, all you need to do is to make it a burning desire to acquire one. Keep saying to yourselves: i have a healthy self-esteem. The brain will start directing you towards things to do and to things to read/watch. Fix the roots ( self-esteem) and forget about the fruits. Please pm if you still have any questions.
Hello. I registered here a few years ago but I was in the wring place emotionally to form a healthy habit. I'm 52 and have been a sex addict for 35+ years. Over that time my BOC has been anonymous meetings, porn, compulsive masturbation oh yes and then drugs and sex. I knew that I had a problem all the way through really but hid it. I started therapy five years ago now and I am now, more or less, not meeting anyone. I feel that this is the right time to stop PMO for 90 days. I did 30 last month but some feelings of anger have come up in a certain situation and this led me back to PMO to curb anxiety. My question is where do I start here? I am confident that I an succeed and know that it can be tough. What would you do if you were in my position? Before, I have just abstained but I'd like to try and use the forum in the best possible way to start putting in this piece of the jigsaw. Thanks for your help.
I want to change because this conflicts with my core values. I am absent from my family and from my life when I behave in this way. I have problems with anxiety afterwards which spirals into yet more unhealthy behaviour. I want to be successful as a husband, father and in my career. My PMO/addict behaviour impacts on that.
Yes, agreed, it is strong. I want to change because that behaviour does not make me happy. I am not being true to me. Or are you asking a different "why"?
