If anyone new who needs help, please ask

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Beekind, Oct 4, 2021.

  1. Beekind

    Beekind Fapstronaut

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    Please ask for help if you need any.
    Plenty of experienced members here.
    This journey is easier if u have the right support.
     
  2. YellowBlob64

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    Gonna be straight up here;

    how does one increase their self esteem? And does an increase in self-esteem lead to being more sociable?
     
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  3. ANewFocus

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    Identify your insecurities. Tackle the root of those insecurities on a daily basis. Read literature that reminds you how special it is to have a precious human life and that you are worthy, no matter how other people receive you.
     
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    Any literature in particular?
     
  5. Beekind

    Beekind Fapstronaut

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    This is the most important question. Self-esteem is the blueprint that dictates all our actions & interactions.
    To have a healthy self-esteem, all you need to do is to make it a burning desire to acquire one.
    Keep saying to yourselves: i have a healthy self-esteem.
    The brain will start directing you towards things to do and to things to read/watch.
    Fix the roots ( self-esteem) and forget about the fruits.
    Please pm if you still have any questions.
     
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  6. swiftowl51

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    Hello. I registered here a few years ago but I was in the wring place emotionally to form a healthy habit.
    I'm 52 and have been a sex addict for 35+ years. Over that time my BOC has been anonymous meetings, porn, compulsive masturbation oh yes and then drugs and sex.
    I knew that I had a problem all the way through really but hid it. I started therapy five years ago now and I am now, more or less, not meeting anyone. I feel that this is the right time to stop PMO for 90 days. I did 30 last month but some feelings of anger have come up in a certain situation and this led me back to PMO to curb anxiety.
    My question is where do I start here? I am confident that I an succeed and know that it can be tough. What would you do if you were in my position?
    Before, I have just abstained but I'd like to try and use the forum in the best possible way to start putting in this piece of the jigsaw.
    Thanks for your help.
     
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  7. Beekind

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    Why do u want to change?
     
  8. swiftowl51

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    I want to change because this conflicts with my core values. I am absent from my family and from my life when I behave in this way. I have problems with anxiety afterwards which spirals into yet more unhealthy behaviour. I want to be successful as a husband, father and in my career. My PMO/addict behaviour impacts on that.
     
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  9. Beekind

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    That is a very strong WHY.
     
  10. swiftowl51

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    Yes, agreed, it is strong. I want to change because that behaviour does not make me happy. I am not being true to me. Or are you asking a different "why"?
     
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  11. Beekind

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    I have sent u a dm.
     
  12. HXMZL

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    How to change the avatar?
     
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  13. Beekind

    Beekind Fapstronaut

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    There is a section for it on this forum.
     
  14. HXMZL

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    好的,已经更换了
     
  15. HXMZL

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    我已经在这发表了新人贴,What do i need to do next
     

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