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NoFap can give you up to 25 great quitting ideas every month. But it is important to prioritize which ideas you should work on the most. You will often hear about acquiring the habit of turning from lust. Should you work on it 20 times as much as other things? Yes, in fact work on it all month until it is a habit. The reason why is because it is a top 5 skill to learn to quit porn.

I shared what are my top skills for quitting here.

With every skill for quitting, think about how much you should work on it.


Today, I am writing about keeping hope.

Jeremiah 29:11 ESV For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
God wants us turning from lust, but also consistently praying about something scriptural that we want. Consider praying:

“Father, help me to turn from lust, and help me to have hope.”

If you struggle with hope, quote this verse twice daily and pray this prayer often.

Romans 15:13 ESV
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

Romans 12:12 ESV
Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.”
To rejoice in all things is connected with hope.

Isaiah 40:31 ESV / But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.

Romans 15:4 ESV / 4,149 helpful votes
For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.

Reading the scripture gives us hope.

Today analyze how important focusing on hope is for you. If it is hugely important find verses on hope so that you can print off a page or 2 to study daily. If it is only a tiny need for you, study it for a day and move on tomorrow.

Consider writing down 2-3 skills that you should work on daily until they are habits. These habits will become the foundation that you need for quitting.

 

Galatians 6:8 ESV For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.”

Comeafterme.com noted: “You reap in a different season than you sow.

1) Notice that Galatians 6:7 starts by saying, “Do not be deceived.” Why does Paul begin with this warning? The answer is found in the fact that your reaping does not come immediately after you sow. Because of this, you can be deceived into thinking that the reaping will not come. Solomon said, “Because the sentence against an evil deed is not executed speedily, the heart of the children of man is fully set to do evil” (Ecclesiastes 8:11). If you could see the long-term results of your choices, you would always sow to the Spirit.”

It is wise to connect the corruption we reap with our lust. David sinned, and the list of the corruption it caused can fill up a large book. Try not to underestimate its damage.

Second, set a goal for how many new healthy habits you will have started that you will be permanently doing after a full ten days. What you learn and do today is good. Quitting skills that you make into permanent habits (like turning from lust), are great things.

Third, consider scrolling up and reading the December 21st, 2022 if you are new here article. It says everything about how I wanted to end this article.

 

A great long term goal is to have 7 new habits that will help you stop, and seven new habits that will help you start new things that will give you things to do which will help you quit.
Either have a 2nd notebook for these long-term habits or a separate section for these long term habits.
Establishing a permanent long term habit takes about 66 days on average. This site recommends a ton of habits as well as ways to establish habits. Consider filling up a notebook with all the information you can find that will help you make permanent habits out of the 14 habits that you pick.
This site will give you 100 habits to try. But for long-term habits pick important things like turning from lust, or praising the Lord. Pick things that will help you stay free in the long-term.
Become obsessed with these long-term habits. The more permanent habits that you acquire, the easier it will be to quit for good.

 

We need to know exactly what we are working on to conquer lust, today, this week, and this month. To start, it is vital to form a habit of spending a block of time at this site "every" day. Consider setting a time and setting an alarm every day until you make it into a habit.
Second, work on the #1 thing you need to change for the month as often as possible. You can copy and paste any of my articles into a Word file or Google doc so that you have a huge # of tips to fight against the #1 thing that causes you to fall.
Third, think about the 10 issues that cause you to fall or get down. Things like anger, depression, bad TV habits, people problems, or hopelessness. Take extra notes when you read articles that are about things that often affect you.
Fourth, solve today's problems if possible. Today I am not content with anything. So, I have already prayed a dozen times: "Father, help me to be content." I will probably pray it another dozen times. To solve today's problems try putting your issue in the search. So for today, I could put "content, or contentment" in the search at this site. That technique often works, but if it doesn't you can put your issue in a Google search. They certainly have a lot of advice for many problems. One can also put "content, Christian." Then Google will bring up articles on both subjects so that you will get more information that is Bible oriented.
Every day, at the same time, consider working on changes you need to make for today and for this month. It will give you the skills you need to succeed.

 

People try the drug Oxy and think, “That felt good, I want to do that as often as possible.” Instead, if they were thinking “Long-term” they would think: I don't want to be homeless, broke, and broken.

Consider writing Long term at the top of a piece of paper. Then as you read a bunch of articles, write down the dates and titles of articles that push long-term thinking. We work because, in the long term, it is good for us. We eat fruits and vegetables because, in the long term, it is good for us. We read the Bible, pray, forgive, and love because, in the long term, it is good for us. We quit because that will increase our joy in the long term.

Second, addiction is thinking... “Nothing in the universe can help me right now except _______.” Never say that. Instead say: “Other things can help me and I am going to “Try” them.” Consider memorizing that quote. If your world is falling apart, a bike ride with your buddy, followed by digging into scripture will be a bit slower at first, but it will help you.

Third, consider memorizing this question for use when tempted: “Why do I have to fall.” There are 12-20 common reasons for falling. Most of the solutions to fight back against these reasons are covered on this site. Consider noting the articles and dates written for your top reasons.

Finally, consider saying 5 times per day: “I will keep fighting for a solution.” When we put in the work, life gets good again faster.

 

1 John 3:6 Whoever abides in Him does not sin.”

Some addiction treatment centers have people reading the Bible and listening to obedience-oriented sermons for 2-3 hours per day. Then... even if the addiction is very deep-rooted, they quit. Why? Because they are now abiding in Him.

Every person can quit. The only question is: How much do we need to abide in Him to quit? Obviously, some people are very busy. That is why we also want a focus on prayer and prayers. It is usually hard to study the Bible at work.

Second, take note of every tip in this article that you think is “Abiding in Him.” For example, we turn-from-lust so that we can pray, stay pure, and abide in Him.

Third, the minute we don't abide in Him, trouble starts. Adam and Eve abided in Him and only listened to Him. Then... they took a break and listened to something else. Disaster.

Fourth, consider memorizing the above verse. God offered Adam and Eve a great life. He is now offering us a great life. Abide in Him and find purpose and joy.

 

The Rule of 10

We may need 10 new habits to quit for good. But at first glance that is a bit impossible. But with the “Rule of 10,” we are working on a bunch of new habits but we are focusing mightily on one habit right now.

What one habit do you need to have a huge focus on? Today, consider making it your hobby to research how to form new habits. Read a bunch of articles on Google. Put out notes about what you want to change. Look up Bible verses about what you want to change. Pray over those Bible verses and pray about what you want to change.

Second, even adding one habit is hard. Be patient, think longterm, keep restarting.

Third, add the habit you want to acquire with a Christian trait. A dramatic example of this is when we go to war with our love of pleasure and replace it with the fear of the Lord. Proverbs 1 says “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of Wisdom.” Consider praying:

“Father, take away my love of pleasure and help me to fear You.”

This prayer has a triple effect. Fighting our love of sinful pleasure, teaching us to do what the Bible says (Fear the Lord), and it teaches us to have wisdom.

Today, consider rewriting this prayer to add the one habit you want to acquire. Then start to move mountains to acquire that habit.

 

We rarely see ourselves the way God sees us. He looks at us as people who can do great things. He does not have a list of abstract rules. His laws are there so that we can follow them so that we can do great things.

Today, I am again praying:

“Father, expand my borders and bless me indeed.”

This is a great prayer taken directly from scripture. In order to expand my borders I need more of the Holy Spirit inside me. I need to raise my standards for fighting sin and lust. I need to be willing to do God's will.

When I pray, and pray prayers like that one, I start to get a glimpse of how God sees me.

Finally, adjust that prayer to add power:

“Father, help me to turn from lust, and expand my borders.”

Finally, repent, pray, and then think about how God sees you. With every creation, He made someone who can do great things. Today, consider going to war with lust so that you can do them.

Here is a song about how God sees us.

 

I recommended the book Atomic Habits to help with quitting and my friend said, “Just watch the YouTube about the book.” This is an excellent suggestion if you don't want to get the book. But it takes 65 to 100 days to form a new habit. So if today you say, “I will learn to pray “Father help me to turn from lust” over the next 2-3 months. I will form the habit of saying/praying it 10 times “every” day, and I will say it 5-10 times during any TV program that has any risk or if I am anyplace that has risk for me.” I will also read one page from a book about forming habits every day over the next 2-3 months.

I love that plan because reading a page a day reminds you every day about the urgency of learning new “Habits.”

Second, I always say, “Memorize this.” Have a quitting notebook, have an activities notebook. Why? Because it is hard to quit. You have to literally pound out the bad, and be so obsessed with the “New good habit,” that you think about implementing the new good habit all the time.

Third, have you ever been around a weightlifter? They talk constantly about goals, getting bigger, getting stronger, they are totally obsessed. Why? Because their past goals have turned out “golden” for them. They are now bigger, stronger, with way more energy. They also are very excited about the way they look now.

Fourth, tell yourself constantly: “My new habits will keep me from destruction, they will lead me into the light, they are the beginning of joy and purpose.

Finally, pick 1-3 new habits that you want to make permanent habits over the next 2-3 months. Then get a book about habits and read a page a day, or watch 3 minutes “every” day about forming habits on Youtube. That is how anyone can pound out bad habits and start to implement good habits.

 

With the 1-2 habit, we write down 1-2 key things from an article. To triple its effectiveness set an alarm to review these key items every 30 minutes. Obviously, this only works when you are more alone and can review the key things for a few minutes. But, those are the times when temptation ramps up.

Second, Colossians 3:5 “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.”

Consider praying:

“Father, teach me how to put lust to death.”

Satan wants us to peek a tiny bit, to keep looking for just a second, to wait to turn away for an instant. Why does God want us to put lust “To death.” #1 The Bible commands us to be “Filled with the Holy Spirit.” A peek, a look, a pause stops this filling dead for more than a minute or two. Note: Treat intentional looks with rapid repentance. Don't try to fool God, he knows exactly how intentional it was. #2 Cheating keeps us from our purpose and from joy. When we cheat, someone is getting cheated. To find out who, check your mirror. Consider praying:

“Father, help me to turn from lust and show me how to find joy.”

We find joy in purpose and in the presence of the Lord. Remember the two P's, purpose and presence. They will start you down the path toward joy.

 

Jesus fasted and prayed “Before” temptation. Jesus instantly quoted scripture regarding the temptation to satan when He was tempted.

Before temptation, it is wise to have a couple of scriptures from (Google search “Verses lust”) memorized.

Consider fasting from food and memorizing a couple of verses, or fasting from TV, or from your computer.

When tempted “instantly” quote quitting verses. In Jesus temptation in Matthew 4, He did not consider His options for even 1 second, He instantly quoted specific Bible verses that fought off the temptation.

Key point: Put in the work, prayer, and memorization “Before” the temptation happens.

Secondly, satan tempts us with what we want. Psalm 1 says “Blessed is the man whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law does he meditate day and night.” #1 Consider setting a goal to be blessed. #2 Meditate often on the verses that will set you free (Which will also start you toward blessings). #3 Remember, satan tempts us with what we want. How can he continue tempting you if blessings are what you want? If he tries to continue, he will be fighting God's very Word, and His promises. Satan is smart, he will bother you less, and find easier victims. Consider praying often:

“Lord, help me to use Your technique for fighting off temptation.”