If you shouldnt see a women has sex objects then teach me the right perception

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  1. Jufddee

    Jufddee Fapstronaut

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    Actually I jus have a big big doubt to clear as we step Into this era of nofap journey.
    And still sometimes we as the man species we would definitely get lustful thoughts about women to look them as sex objects. So if we shouldnt look the women in that way.. what might be the affirmation or the perception and the right way to look a women..and how to really admire her or respect her ??
     
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  2. Hros

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    As a human being - just like any other person. It's as simple as that.
    So keep telling yourself: Women are people, women are human.
     
  3. drac16

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    The human body is sacred, so it should be treated as such. When you are lusting after a woman whom you are not married to, you are coveting something that doesn't belong to you. We have the capacity to control ourselves, so we therefore can say that you ought to do something better than lusting. Next time you find yourself lusting, thank God for creating such a beautiful woman and be done with it. We ought to not lust, in my view.
     
  4. Jufddee

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    Ok a good one.
    But how do I fix my mindset if I am looking at a one
     
  5. drac16

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    Just try to control your gaze. If you're at a gym and are working out, don't look at the women there. Women often wear yoga pants and tight tank tops at a gym, so avoid that possible trigger by looking somewhere else. If you're watching TV and a Victoria's Secret commercial comes on, look away from the screen. Avoid any possible triggers and you will have a much easier time avoiding lust.
     
  6. Jufddee

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    Okat
     
  7. Call me a hasty judge or whatever but the title of this thread makes you a worthless, stupid troll in my eyes.
     
  8. Jufddee

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    Well you got the right to say ....I have the got the right to ignore
     
  9. Jufddee

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    You can see in my description
     
  10. Freedom_from_PMO

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    The title sounds kind of wierd, but I think I get the idea. The society is really fixated on sex, dating is more and more about looks, people treat others like sex objects, but they also treat themselves like sex objects, are insecure about their sexual value etc.

    You can appreciate women as human beings, obviously, but you can also appreciate femininity itself, there is more to being a woman than just body.
     
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  11. Jufddee

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    Nice one
     
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  13. Needtostop23

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    But in a way what if u can’t stop the addiction of jacking it’s hard for some people to stop
     
  14. Naranja Mecánica

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    Something that helps me is reminding myself that they are someone else's daughter or maybe sister or mother. I also remind myself that they have carreers and dreams and lifes just like all of us. Try to have more friendships with women, and don't think about sex when you're with them. That way, you might start to see the bigger picture. The reality is just that porn teaches men to see women as just an object to use and dispose later. Some women do that to men too. And it becomes harder and harder to respect women in our minds if they don't respect themselves. But that's just the world we live in, we have to be the best of the best and swim against the current. Don't let anyone tell you that there is no point in being a gentleman. Do it even if you are the only one. We were created to serve and protect women.
     
  15. I notice when I go on a long streak from porn my taste change. I find I go from looking at huge butt's and boobs to looking at necks hair cheeks eyes when on a long streak . For me it's natural to look at women but when I am am on nofap it's total admiration . Naturally you should find your self shifting . Also on a long streak I notice I am drawn to more feminine behavior when I am wanking I get drawn in by bitchyness and attitude when I am on nofap that behavior is like repellant.
     
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  16. Awedouble

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    As a process instead of an object. Even if it's not as a sex object, any objectification ignores the reality that people change through time. There's a developmental process and if your view is static there's probably some form of arrested development, at least in your understanding and possibly in your psyche.
     
  17. Very true when it comes to other's but if oneself chooses to devote themself to an idea or another or anything to that matter great possibilities will absolutely blossom .
     
  18. Awedouble

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    Yes and that blossoming is a process. Whether it's the process of a relationship developing between two people, between an individual and a kind of study or lifes work, it's going to unfold over time.
     
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  19. This is true, but holy damn, this post made me sad. The fact that this needs to be explicitly stated is... extremely depressing.
     
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  20. Jufddee

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    An exact definition that satisfies my answer.. thanx for replying paal
     

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