If you're a teen,Read This Now!

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by TB4, Aug 6, 2020.

  1. TB4

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    So I'm about 14, been addicted since 11, was trying nofap for more than a month now-highest number of days till now had been 5, I'm an obese kinda popular kinda smart kid,i used to be the best in the school and now it's the top 10/20 in my class
    I never struggled with maintaing friendships but always felt like the females were avoiding me and just felt inferior to my friends
    Coming back to the problem
    I have a few goals-
    To stop PMO completely
    To get a better physique
    To get my motivation and clarity about life
    I've always been and still am an avid reader and i'm trying to remain that way but my lack of interest is becoming really noticeable now
    And i've experienced two things for the 2-4 day streaks I've had till now
    A) On the one day that i reached day 5 i had an extreme desire to actually do stuff and to study to workout etc and i want to have that back it's called the superpower last time i checked
    B)This girl that i used to have a crush on and am really good friends with starting messaging me and we started to talk and yesterday she asked me to let it all out ie-She noticed i was acting wierd and was diffrent now,after some pressing i finnaly did and now she says that She'll help me get through this and she's there if i ever need someone
    I want advice on-
    a)How i could manage my time since i've found myself with 6 sometimes 10 hours of screen time which is horrible for me
    B)how do i maintain my streaks at the moment im on day 2 again and I wanna know how i can defeat my urges
    C) how i can get these superpowers back since i i have almost 0 intrest in studies now but i need to start scoring more since im approaching the end of school and start of college years
    Day 3 report:Okay so today was extremely horrible,on the night of day 2 I had horrible urges and couldn't sleep at all,stayed awake till 1 am but managed to not give in,next day woke up at around 9 and started school stuff immediately (this was 1 win) then i attended the meeting with my tr and talked (thru text) to a few friends (another win) then i had some extra classes in the afternoon and that's when the urges started again these were extremely horrible and i almost relapsed many times,even searched pornstars, different keywords etc and clicked on images but closed the tab before anything could load (partly a win) then i fell asleep watching a few vids and after waking up started scrolling insta on my spare acc (big big mistake) and came across soft porn and i looked at that for a really long time and almost went to hard porn as well but closed the tab before it would load,I logged out of my spare acc and I plan to delete it,then i did a 7 min workout (another win) but i started edging in the shower after that (fail)
    I noticed a few things
    A)This felt better than mastuburating to any kind of porn ever
    B)I lasted a really long time without even feeling like cumming and gathred the courage to stop myself,now while edging i wasn't thinking of any kind of porn or anything erotic at all my mind was blank and all i felt was how good edging felt physically,a
    no porn,and no thoughts about porn whatsoever
    C)I couldn't take a cold shower,if the water was too cold i wouldn't be able to breathe and would have to get out of the shower,i have no clue how it works but it was really annoying
    And now im writing this before heading to sleep,i wouldn't count today as relapsing so tommorow's still day 4 for me (bcuz I didn't look at any hard porn and didn't feel any of the negative emotions one would normally after relapsing)
     
    Last edited: Aug 8, 2020
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  2. On the path

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    If you've got parents that care, they might help you better than that girl can. Girls say they want to help, but they really have no idea what to do, and just give emotional support while you struggle and it really just turns them off.

    I can totally get not wanting to ask your parents for help because it's really embarrassing for you, but if I had a son, I would do anything to help. Still, the main reason to ask your parents for help is that they can do some real shit to help -- Shit that your girl can't. They can do things like take away your damn computer and phone so you have zero access to the internet for 90 days. I beat my cravings by using absolutely NO internet from April until August. No internet, get your ass outside on a bench and read. Or they can do things like get your a gym subscription so you're spending far more time out of the house and off the internet.
     
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  3. The White Fang

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    Hi,
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    aybe this could help,
    now for the first problem regarding screen time,try to find out where you are currently in the aspect of phone usage(i.e.
    how many hours do you spend on it,you have mentioned it in your post but double check it again..)
    Then, if you are using your mobile then the possible time suckers would be social media apps<take a break from them if it is so>,Secondly try to use greyscale on your mobile<search what it is and how to enable it on the internet)
    thirdly use the pomodoro technique for studying which is 25 minutes of studying and 5 minutes of break.... this is helpful if you are trying to get back on track in the matter of studying.{i would recommend FOREST app for the above technique.}
    For defeating urges u can Meditate, Excersise[THERE ARE APPS ON THE PLAY STORE OR THE IOS STORE OR JUST SIMPLY FOLLOW THROUGH A YOU TUBE WORKOUT VIDEO FOR BEGINNERS] ,and even do cold showers[one helpful tip:if your dick hardens or some urge appears and you cant battle it and also cant take a cold shower then pour some water on it or wash the entire lower area of your body with cold water.]





    HOPE THIS HELPED
    ANY QUERIES, DONT HESITATE TO ASK
    With Regards,
    Kakashi
     
  4. TB4

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    firstly thanks for the advice, Hoping that the Pomodoro technique helps, Most of my screen time is either in gaming/learning python/useful stuff/school stuff and scrolling through memes, I can out the last one but to what extent do I limit my gaming? What amount of time's reasonable? Also, I watch some anime and or movies but that isn't as serious, secondly, any specific workout you might wanna recommend, I feel overwhelmed by the sheer variety of stuff I could do and end up doing nothing, I don't shower that much just once every alternate day but your advice will work out I'm sure about that
    lastly the most important question-You say you're Kakashi but your username's The white fang, Kakashi's dad, Who are you in actuality? xD
     
  5. TB4

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    That's exactly what I would've been doing if it weren't for COVID,and apart from the internet, i don't really have anything to do since everything's closed and I did go to the gym before this happened but I would've never been allowed to do weights or anything except cardio so that disappointed me a bit
    so what can I do without going outside?
    About the advice situation- one day my parents caught me and that's partly why I started but i don't really have the best relationship with them, and it's far easier to just talk with friends, and you're absolutely correct when you say she doesn't know what she's doing but it gives me relief at least knowing there's someone I can text/call anytime to get my mind off the urges and I won't have to make up random stuff I can be completely honest
     
  6. The White Fang

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    hi,
    limit your gaming to atleast one hour, i am sure you are not getting any added benefits mentally or physically while playing games.
    watching anime and movies are fine but be selective, if it contains triggers then you are likely to relapse.
    also, i do not have any specific workout to recommend but if you are starting out to workout you can try the 7 min workout on youtube, it is good for beginners.[I also felt overwhelmed by the sheer amount of workouts on youtube, just pick one and stick to it, or you can ask advice on the NOFAP FITNESS THREAD as i believe there are many members who will be able to solve your dilemma]

    oh the answer to the last question is ...............



    FOCUS ON YOUR MISSION,
    DONT STRAY FROM YOUR NINJA WAY
     
  7. TB4

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    I do actually mastuburate wayyyyy too much 4/5 times a day was normal for me so im hoping theseuthese superpowers actually work
    I dont fell any of the negative emotions that I've seen other people feel,I never hate myself after relapsing i just get mad that im jacking off to porn instead of a real person (I know there's still atleast 7 years till my marriage)
    Is this a bad thing or am i really lucky?
     
  8. TB4

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    Just 1 hour that feels too less,but I guess i could cut out all my solo gaming and only play with my friends,I guess that could work
    I will ask for advice on the other forum as you suggest since i still feel overwhelmed (i actually walked for some time today felt good)
    And i will watch out for triggers in movies/animes thanks for the advice
    And lastly-"Hai hokage sama"
     
  9. TB4

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    Day 3 report:Okay so today was extremely horrible,on the night of day 2 I had horrible urges and couldn't sleep at all,stayed awake till 1 am but managed to not give in,next day woke up at around 9 and started school stuff immediately (this was 1 win) then i attended the meeting with my tr and talked (thru text) to a few friends (another win) then i had some extra classes in the afternoon and that's when the urges started again these were extremely horrible and i almost relapsed many time,even searched pornstars, different keywords etc and clicked on images but closed the tab before anything could load (partly a win) then i fell asleep watching a few vids and after waking up started scrolling insta on my spare acc (big big mistake) and came across soft porn and i looked at that for a really long time and almost went to hard porn as well but closed the tab before it would load,I logged out of my spare acc and I plan to delete it,then i did a 7 min workout (another win) but i started edging in the shower after that (fail)
    I noticed a few things
    A)This felt better than mastuburating to any kind of porn ever
    B)I lasted a really long time without even feeling like cumming and gathred the courage to stop myself,now while edging i wasn't thinking of any kind of porn or anything erotic at all my mind was blank and all i felt was how good edging felt, physically again no porn,and no thoughts about porn whatsoever
    C)I couldn't take a cold shower,if the water was too cold i wouldn't be able to breathe and would have to get out of the shower,i have no clue how it works but it was really annoying
    And now im writing this before heading to sleep,i wouldn't count today as relapsing so tommorow's still day 4 for me (bcuz I didn't look at any hard porn and didn't feel any of the negative emotions after relapsing
     
  10. Quitterrr

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    Your sorry is exactly like mine, but I got addicted at 12, my highest streak was 5 too, until one time I watched a video on YouTube that said the following:
    "You can't stop because YOU LOVE WHAT YOURE DOING" you like pmo, you like the feeling, you like it, you became addicted to it, you need to hate it, see the effects it did on you, where they positive? Hell no, besides after I saw the video, my highest streak was 12 days, then I tried again, and now I'm on day 162 and counting, also u need an accountability partner, just talking to someone about ur struggle will receive some pain, if you're interested in me being your partner, start a conversation with me and I'll send u my phone number so we can talk on WhatsApp, but it's ur choice :)
     
  11. TB4

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    That's some amazing advice, if you could, could I get the link to the video?
    Also, the girl that I mentioned (we're not dating, just close friends) She's my accountability partner, She seems to understand what it's like and Knows me well enough to help me, So thanks for the offer but I decline
     
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    I searched for the video thousands of times, but I couldn't find it, I'll try one more time, wish me luck
     
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  13. TB4

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    Let's go you can do it!
     
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    I couldn't find it, I believe he deleted it as I found every other video that was surrounding his, but still I gave you the main idea of his video:
    You like your addiction, deep down you know you love your addiction, you need to hate it, see its effects on you, then you'll quit with ease (the video was talking about every addiction not a specific one)
     
  15. TB4

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    I gotta think of how much its ruined my life,i gotta think about how i got no stamina,a tonna fat,horrible social life,and i gotta think of how badly it affected my brain power and my energy levels,sounds fun
     

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