Im 16, i just need some hope and help

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Ijustwannabefree, Dec 29, 2019.

  1. Ijustwannabefree

    Ijustwannabefree New Fapstronaut

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    Im from Brazil, so im really sorry for my bad english . I cant actually remember how did i get here, i just remember feeling like i should do it.
    I am 16 now, i think i started PMO when i was like 10 or 11. I First started Nofap when i was 14, and back then i had never had any sexual relationship, but i changed in the beggining of 2018 when i met my ex girlfriend. When we met i was in day 60 or something, and our first sex relation was when i was about to become 15 (she was already 17 when i was 14 and, she was a lot more mature than me, and had never had sex too, so lets say i was a lucky guy because at the moment we fell in love she had way more experience with any sort of relations than me and wanted her first time to be with me too). So when i was like in day 90 (i did relapsed once back then) i had sex for the first time. I had a lot of trouble back then, i had erection problems when i was 15, before quitting porn, videos did not arouse me anymore and i had discovered a lot of fetishes that never really aroused me in real life, thats some of the reasons why i decided to quit it, and for coincidence i was already in nofap when i met my ex, but i still had a lot of problems, but during my relationship i used to see a lot of progress with the ED problem, at some point i could have "normal" sex, but ED was always there.
    I Dated for like a year, but a month and a half before my breakup (she brokeup with me in april 2019 i think) i relapsed (she had sent me a belly pic with some provocating message during a 15 day trip she was on, and it took me crazy).
    Its crazy to think that 2 or 3 months after starting NoFap i got i girlfriend and had a good relation for a whole year, and 1 month after i started fapping again that same relation had an end.
    I came back to fapping after the breakup, not the same amount of times of my ealier age (it used to be like 5 times a day when i was in vacation, always with porn, and fetish porn that i would classify as moderated for 1 year e a half before i first started nofap) now i was fapping like 1 time or 2, not everyday. I fell into a really bad time after breakup. This fapping period took 3 months. Then i stopped it again, restarted nofap. 20 days after restarting nofap i met another girl, i didnt like her but i was interested in sex (i always said it to her, i did not want anything deeper, i did not wanted to hurt her, but if she was into sex we could do it). She was into it, but my ED problems did not wanted it to work well. I failed multiple time in having sex. She would gave me a blowjob everytime we met, but i had trouble getting a erection even this way. We had sex once, i got a 60% boner (IM FUCKING 16 IT SHOULD NOT BE THIS WAY) and it did not lasted for a long time, i think it was a combination of the ED with the fact that i did not like her. After that i broke everything with her, i did not like her and i didnt want her to feel used. She would send naked pics every week and i did not even used to take a good look, never got a boner looking at her naked in front of me, just if she did a blowjob first and i had to imaginate a girl i had really liked, like my ex or another cute girl i fell in love after my breakup.
    I think im on day 60, but i decided to restart again with not even sex relations till my confidence is back and i find a person im really into, so im on day 3 again.

    Its really hard for a 16 years old guy to not get hard in front of a naked person you like, it kills me everyday and makes me anxious about the future, i dont know if it will ever go away.

    I think im on flatline now. I know its harder for the young people like me, but how long do you guys think i can be cured from ED? I do exercise everyday a lot and decided to have a better diet, im reading a lot and next yeat its my university test year (i will spend the whole year studying like crazy for some tests in the end of the year that will put me in some good university around here). What else can i do to help me in this journey to beat up ED?
    Thank you all that readed and thank you all for helping!
     
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  2. EnglishTosser

    EnglishTosser Fapstronaut

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    Quit porn, don't attempt to have any sex and stop masterbating completely for at least 9 months and you will be fine. You will recover quicker since you are young, stop pressuring yourself and everything will go back to normal. DO NOT EDGE!
     
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  3. Ijustwannabefree

    Ijustwannabefree New Fapstronaut

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    Dude, does not having sex really helps? My confidence is not that great now, so i did refuse sex 3 or 4 times recently. 9 months is a lot of time, i know i can do this, but im really nervous about ED and so. Do you believe this amount of time is enough?
     
  4. EnglishTosser

    EnglishTosser Fapstronaut

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    No sex what so ever for at least 9 month! There are no compromises. You are not ready. This is a dopamine issue, not a hormonal one. REST your brain. I have been in your position, probably worse off than what you are. I couldn't get erect to porn even, never mind a real woman. I felt like nothing was working then on around day 70 I felt strange, my penis shrank, I started getting pain in my balls. Then boom I got the biggest erection I'd had in years! Just relax, join a boxing gym that really helped me speed up the process.
     
  5. Ijustwannabefree

    Ijustwannabefree New Fapstronaut

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    I think it will take way more time for me. I run everyday and i am back to gym, i will do everything that helps me solve this shit. I get morning mood every day too and have my wet dreams back already.
    Is your sex life is back to normal?
    Thank you dude, everything you say really helps me getting my hope back, and that keeps me on the track. I decided i will not have sex until october or until my issue is solved. I will never look at porn again.
     
  6. It's TIME to STOPPP

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    don't have sex purely because if feels good. A love relationship doesn't always need sex, and I recommend you to put more time on your studies than relationships, as it won't help you at all.

    Spend the time on learning new things, maybe some subjects you're bad at, focus on your language skills (practicing your English) and more. These things will have a great positive impact on you.
     

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